My partner has one brother and one sister. His sister is so rude, she doesn’t even acknowledge me or my partner and walks right past us. But she’s really close with their brother’s wife who recently got married, and they do everything together like go shopping, go out to dinner etc. This new DIL also chooses to ignore me and my partner. My partner doesn’t have a good relationship with his siblings which explains why but these 2 girls come across really bitchy. I don’t like the idea of going into a family where I’m being left out and ignored by the girls, like who am I supposed to talk to in family get-togethers? My partner's family meet up with the extended family practically every weekend. To make it worse, the whole family and extended family are obsessed with this new DIL. On every family occasion she is the centre of attention so I can’t help but feel jealous. My MIL (to-be) is even more obsessed with her because MIL gets along so well with the new DIL’s mother. She’s the most loved by everyone, I can’t even compete. After coming out of really bad depression, I just want peace of mind over everything but I feel like I’ll always have anger and jealousy towards his family if I marry him.
I have my doubts about my partner due to his financial situation, and he has a bad temper at times but otherwise he’s very loving towards me. I told him my concerns with his family and he told me not to worry because I’m marrying him, not his family and he would move away with me if I really can’t stand them. But I worry he’ll resent me for this later down the line as he is close with his parents and extended family. I’m sure they will complain about us not visiting as often, and compare me to their amazing DIL who visits all the time, which will just make me more jealous. Also, it makes me sad that I won’t have any kind of sister in law relationship. I know if we move away I will still have to deal with them occasionally at family events so won’t really be getting away from the problem.