New man issues

[Doingitaloneandproud]

Hey all

So I need some advice on if I'm the problem
Basically I was talking to a man from tinder for a few weeks and then we met for a social distance walk, no touching at all and stayed a distance, these are interesting dating times haha! It went really nice, fast and conversation flowed.
However since he keeps trying to get me to send naked photos, I explained I'm not doing it and that in the past they'd ended up somewhere, so then he said how annoyed he is at that guy who did it as it's ruined it for him so I ignored that. Then he said since I won't send photos he'll have to imagine me naked. A few other comments here and there and last night he text saying to let him know when I'm going to bed as he would send a relaxing surprise, didn't acknowledge this and woke up to him texting last night saying let me know you 'sexy glamour model you'
I'm beginning to get pissed off. Conversation is normal for the most part until he does this. I'm not frigid at all but I'm not interested in this after one date. I'm still not over my ex; for my stupidity, so I'm just wondering if maybe it's me just being a bit prickly

Clearly he’s a pushy arsehole who you don’t even know. Imagine what he’s like when he does know you.

End.

IS this for real. The man wants a shag and photos not to get to know you.
Block and move on. Sex pest alert.

I can get why you’re irritated by this, I’d just tell him straight you’d like to get to know him but this kind of chat about pics etc is putting you off, if he doesn’t take that on board it’s his loss

Always trust your instincts when something is off and making you uncomfortable.

He's a prick. Don't let him gaslight you into sending nudes. WHats he got - a collection??? If you stay with him, you'll be here in a few months saying 'My boyfriend has a porn habit'

Bin him off

I always use this as a barometer for whether a man can take no for an answer. Listen to what this is telling you.

The depressing thing is you asking if you're being unreasonable. He sounds repellent.

Those are not the actions of a man wanting anything more than casual sex

Yuk

I'd just ditch him. He's pushy and grossing you out a bit. Why continue?

He's falling at the early hurdles of not being a nuisance, not pushing boundaries and not being a whiny pissant.

And this is why I'm SO pissed off with OLD. Men just want sex. They don't want any sort of meaningful relationship. It's all about them and their wants and needs. Sod women. Bin him off - and tell him why.

He's a dick. How are you not grasping that? Ditch him.

And I bet his "relaxing surprise" was a picture of his dick.

Ew. How offputting. This would ring big alarm bells with me. Not only is he being very sleazy but he's showing you that he can't take no for an answer or respect your boundaries. After one date I certainly wouldn't be sending nudes and I'd be tempted to block and delete after this behaviour. If you want to give him another chance then I would just be frank and say look it isn't happening and I'm finding this really off putting.

@category12

And I bet his "relaxing surprise" was a picture of his dick.

Yup

Wow. Thank you all for your responses. It's good to see it's not just me, I guess I was just wondering if it's the fact that I'm not over my ex clouding my opinion of it/him
I am so over any online dating although no other chance to meet people

@Headsshoulderskneesandtoes00

Those are not the actions of a man wanting anything more than casual sex

100%

Yuk.. avoid

The first thing you did wrong is be on Tinder. It's full of men like that!!
The second thing is say no thank you and block! You're worth more than this xx

The clincher is right at the end of your post: I'm still not over my ex.

There are plenty of reasons to not continue dating this guy — NSFW photo insistences when you’re not comfortable with that being a biggie — but if you’re not over your ex yet it’s a zero sum game anyway.

This is in no way your fault or issue. But. I’d say be kinder to yourself and give yourself more time to heal and put the past behind you, would be my little bit of advice.

It's definitely NOT you OP! YUK, he sounds VILE. He's a sexual predator

@Doingitaloneandproud

Wow. Thank you all for your responses. It's good to see it's not just me, I guess I was just wondering if it's the fact that I'm not over my ex clouding my opinion of it/him I am so over any online dating although no other chance to meet people

Erm no Many many men are dicks. Safer to assume any man you meet OLD is a dick until proven otherwise - not the other way around. You can bin off an OLD date for any reason at all but being pushy sexually is a pretty big one.

Send a pic of a naked inflatable doll.
And then block him.

Where is your self respect? Surely the first time he asks for a 'naked' picture (after you have only met for a walk ) you just block him immediately.

You don't owe him any explanation, he sounds revolting.

When I was Internet dating I immediately deleted and blocked anyone like him. I'd advise you to do the same. One of the things I looked for in a man was respect. I got it from the man I married. He isn't a prude....far from it!.... but he was respectful online and at our first meetings. He didn't try to use me as a masturbation tool, which is what this man is doing to you, He sounds vile.

When I first met dh he asked to send him a pic of me in the bath. I sent one of the taps..
He never asked again and laughed about it!!