New man issues

[Doingitaloneandproud]

Hey all

So I need some advice on if I'm the problem
Basically I was talking to a man from tinder for a few weeks and then we met for a social distance walk, no touching at all and stayed a distance, these are interesting dating times haha! It went really nice, fast and conversation flowed.
However since he keeps trying to get me to send naked photos, I explained I'm not doing it and that in the past they'd ended up somewhere, so then he said how annoyed he is at that guy who did it as it's ruined it for him so I ignored that. Then he said since I won't send photos he'll have to imagine me naked. A few other comments here and there and last night he text saying to let him know when I'm going to bed as he would send a relaxing surprise, didn't acknowledge this and woke up to him texting last night saying let me know you 'sexy glamour model you'
I'm beginning to get pissed off. Conversation is normal for the most part until he does this. I'm not frigid at all but I'm not interested in this after one date. I'm still not over my ex; for my stupidity, so I'm just wondering if maybe it's me just being a bit prickly

Wow. It's so amazing how things have changed in just 10 years. If a guy asked you to do that after a first date back then you would have run a mile and thought he was nuts. Fast forward 10 years and you're the one wondering if you're nuts.

No, you do not have tolerate this. If you tolerate this, then your children will be next.

@Doingitaloneandproud

Hahahaha I'm almost sorry I blocked him before I could send that picture

I cannot understand why men honestly think their penises are such a wonderful sight

If I have to be on my own and avoid men like this I will happily do so at this point ...

Well, you can save this naked pussy for any potential future requests

I had the exact same thing from a man I met for one date on Tinder. Seemed relatively normal on the date but then hit back in touch with sporadic messaging, always mentioning sex or "playing with himself". No interest in conversation or getting to know me. I have him a warning but he did it again, so I just blocked him. He was really annoying and very off putting.

I also blocked another man off Tinder last week who started talking about sex as well. I've stopped Tinder now. I think it's mainly used now by men looking for NSA sex. Even if they meet someone decent on there, because it's Tinder, they are likely to shag and run. They have no interest in what you look like, what you do for a living, your interests - in fact, the more desperate for attention the woman is, the better.

Sleazy. Block, explaining why if it'd help you to let off steam.

Hi,

I just found out that my partner has been sexting an older woman. I've seen the messages and when I began to ask about it he avoided it for 2 hours, then gave me 5 minutes of his time, during which he brushed it off as not cheating really. I put it down to emotional cheating. It has been three days now since we have not spoken. We have a wonderful 5 month baby together hence it's a lot harder to make a decision to part ways.
He was sexting the other woman during my last few weeks of pregnancy and would have gone through with it had she not been the one to say no at the time. I feel like the best thing for my child would be coparenting while living together, buti don't want to be with him anymore as the full trust I had in him is completely gone. Please advise as very confused. Thank you

@Pregnantt - sorry this is happening to you. But you’d be better to start your own thread to ask for advice, people won’t see it here.

Just report your own comment to Mn , ask them to delete and repost on a new thread on this board.

Your problem is that you didn't block him as soon he asked for naked photos, which is very telling about your boundaries. Never understood people who send naked photos of themselves for strangers to use how they please. The very act of doing that tells them that you don't respect your own body or yourself so why would they respect you? And why wouldn't you be surprised they end up in dodgy places. Why do such people lack so much self respect? Very sad :(

@whatisheupto

Wow. It's so amazing how things have changed in just 10 years. If a guy asked you to do that after a first date back then you would have run a mile and thought he was nuts. Fast forward 10 years and you're the one wondering if you're nuts.

No, you do not have tolerate this. If you tolerate this, then your children will be next.

To be fair, it's not everyone in this generation who does this. It is alarming how some people just follow along like sheep with this 'sending naked pictures' trend. Very scary what people go along with if they think it meets society expectations!

I am a man. You have done the right thing. Whilst I am perfectly happy with what is between my legs and to be naked in a sauna or steam room, I recognise it is not something to be photographed for anyone.

Haha he is a total twat.

If you're not comfortable with it, don't do it, or entertain him. Simples.

Jesus. Why do men do this? We all deserve better and the fact that you're questioning yourself is so worrying.