New man issues

[Doingitaloneandproud]

Hey all

So I need some advice on if I'm the problem
Basically I was talking to a man from tinder for a few weeks and then we met for a social distance walk, no touching at all and stayed a distance, these are interesting dating times haha! It went really nice, fast and conversation flowed.
However since he keeps trying to get me to send naked photos, I explained I'm not doing it and that in the past they'd ended up somewhere, so then he said how annoyed he is at that guy who did it as it's ruined it for him so I ignored that. Then he said since I won't send photos he'll have to imagine me naked. A few other comments here and there and last night he text saying to let him know when I'm going to bed as he would send a relaxing surprise, didn't acknowledge this and woke up to him texting last night saying let me know you 'sexy glamour model you'
I'm beginning to get pissed off. Conversation is normal for the most part until he does this. I'm not frigid at all but I'm not interested in this after one date. I'm still not over my ex; for my stupidity, so I'm just wondering if maybe it's me just being a bit prickly

I do respect myself, but as I explained I wasn't sure if I was overreacting to it. I have blocked his number now. And as @NastyBlouse said I'm going to give myself more time. I guess I was in a rush to prove I'm over him and doing fantastic, and I just need to allow myself more time. Maybe I'll try again in the new year after a few more months of 'me' time

Plenty of people do do this on old, and it's fine, if it's mutual. But, if it's not what you want, that's also fine. Swipe right on someone else, there's plenty of them.

I think a basic rule to have for yourself is if you say no to something, you expect to have it respected and accepted straight away.

So whining, trying to convince you, stropping or sulking or attempts to manipulate you or lawyer around it get the guy dumped straight away.

Look for gracious acceptance and no pushback. And listen to your own feelings. If you're uncomfortable, then pay attention to that, and don't give the "benefit of the doubt" at your own risk/expense.

That behaviour would have me blocking him. Pushy, one track minded creep.

Urgh! Thank god you’ve blocked this utter slug!

Don’t ever entertain this bs again.

Wow, I actually don't mind sending/receiving pics in a committed relationship but if someone even asked - let alone pushed - for them after one date, I wouldn't continue to acknowledge them.

I’ve experienced this type of guy, and even when refusing, taking things slow, etc - they still ended up a prick!

He’s showing you who he is.

My recommendation is delete - block

Glad you have deleted and blocked. What a knob he was. Imagine feeling entitled to naked photos of someone you have met once. And his refusal to take no for an answer.

I do disagree with the remarks a PP made about tinder. All life is on there. The good, the bad and the ugly. It's about setting your standards and boundaries and walking away from something that isn't for you. Just as in real life.

Glad you got rid.

He’s probably the type to collect nudes and if you got with him you’d be here in six months typing about all these naked women you’ve discovered hidden in his phone/tablet/usb stick/pc.

"Many many men are dicks. Safer to assume any man you meet OLD is a dick until proven otherwise - not the other way around"
What a stupid sweeping statement! One person puts forward their story and thats the best you can do. Just to readress the balance and to represent a male perspective, that is not how all men are. If you go in to dating with that nasty attitude you're road to nothing and possibly spending your life on your own.
Of course I'd agree there will be a fair share of idiots out there as there are a number of women that are complete time wasters just looking for a free meal out and a drink. You have to go forward on balance. Don't give up at the first hurdle as there are lots of good men out there. Try a different dating app rather than Tinder, you might have to pay & subscribe but it may open up a better choice of opportunities for you.

Ew what a creep. Goodbye to him!

I actually used to say in the first few lines of chatting that I did not want any sexting or dick pics, and if they ignored me and did it anyway, like @81Byerley, I would just ghost them. The amount of guys I’d have paranoid messaging that there was something wrong with their cock. Was quite amusing to just go silent

@Raidblunner

"Many many men are dicks. Safer to assume any man you meet OLD is a dick until proven otherwise - not the other way around" What a stupid sweeping statement! One person puts forward their story and thats the best you can do. Just to readress the balance and to represent a male perspective, that is not how all men are. If you go in to dating with that nasty attitude you're road to nothing and possibly spending your life on your own. Of course I'd agree there will be a fair share of idiots out there as there are a number of women that are complete time wasters just looking for a free meal out and a drink. You have to go forward on balance. Don't give up at the first hurdle as there are lots of good men out there. Try a different dating app rather than Tinder, you might have to pay & subscribe but it may open up a better choice of opportunities for you.

I'm a seasoned OLDer and I speak from experience. Thanks for your not-all-men perspective but I'm talking about men on online dating sites not men in general

Many women are far too trusting in general and towards men on dating sites in particular. It's far safer to be guarded until a man shows he's decent than to be open until a man shows he's a prick.

I'd happily oblige him with a picture of a naked pussy...

He's awful.
Why would you let a man make you feel like that when you've only been on one date?
Tell him you don't want to meet again and don't want to talk anymore and get rid of him.

Sorry just saw your latest post where you've said you blocked him. Well done!

Yuck. I dated a guy like this. Told me that most women would be happy to have some that “desires” them like that.

It only gets worse, he will be a sex pest to the point you will not like him anymore.

Revolting. Glad you've blocked him already.

Omg that pink cat is horrific!

@Nailgirl

IS this for real. The man wants a shag and photos not to get to know you. Block and move on. Sex pest alert.

True

If you go in to dating with that nasty attitude you're road to nothing and possibly spending your life on your own.

Arf at this. The threat of... spinsterhood! Dont be nasty girls or you won't win the prize.

Hahahaha I'm almost sorry I blocked him before I could send that picture

I cannot understand why men honestly think their penises are such a wonderful sight

If I have to be on my own and avoid men like this I will happily do so at this point ...

You're not being prickly, he's a thirsty sleaze...

Bin ASAP.

Crossed post, I see you've binned him already 👍😂

Eww what a turn-off.
And the sad loser wouldn't take no for an answer.
You've definitely done the right thing