I definitely want out

[Tulip55]

I have posted before about EA husband. I broke up with him in April but took him back. He has made massive improvements but its just too little too late for me. I am certain I want to end it but with 2nd lockdown now and Christmas round the corner I don't know how/when to end it. We have barely spoken recently and have separate beds now. I just want the kids to have a nice Christmas after such a terrible year. What would you do? I want to tell him but it would make living together difficult.

The kids must be picking up on the tension? Xx

Hes actually been better than I expected, i think these changes he has been making are genuine, not enough for me to stay though, too much has gone on to forget. He has accepted its over this time which is a relief. I try not to talk to him about anything in person, all through text. The kids are picking up on it for sure, especially my youngest. I am trying to agree a suitable timetable for the kids but he's being awkward trying to push for more time. I have just told him he needs to go away and think about it. I will not be bullied anymore. I am feeling stronger now I am not having direct conversations with him, getting in my ear making me feel bad.

Sounds like youre making positive steps my lovely, and you will get through this xx

A truthful statement you can make is that the DC need as little change as possible, I have always been primary carer and that needs to stay consistent for their sake for quite some time.

How are you Tulip xx

Hi alm. I pm'd you. I am feeling really down today. I am struggling to find somewhere to live and I am starting to dread Christmas as we were spending it with his family and now I dont feel welcome. We told the kids we would spend it together this one last time though. I was doing ok until I spoke to him yesterday. He was all nicey nicey saying he doesn't understand why I dont tryst him and making me doubt myself again.