Ex-husband wants to steal my house

[Al7722]

So I was married o my ex-husband for less than years, we have two daughters who live with me. Before we got married I inherited a house which I sold whilst we were married and bought one in the UK. It was always understood that it would go to the kids. My ex-husband is lazy, useless at home and let me do a full time job with a 3 hr daily commutte and all the chores whilst he sat on the couch with the kids watching TV. I finally had enough and asked for a divorce. Now he wants me to sell MY house and give him half the money eventhough he hasn't contributed a penny or carried out any handy work whatsoever in it. He doesn't care that the kids would lose their house.

My question is: has someone had a similar experience? What was the outcome? and also does anyone know a sharky lawyer who could defend me better than my current one?

Thank you so much!

@blissfulllife

The double standards here is crazy!

If this was a single mom who's stayed at home with the children one of whom is special needs,and the dad called her lazy for not doing DIY there would be uproar!

Exactly. OP wasn't forced to marry him and that's what marriage is all about anyway - becoming one unit and sharing all that you have.

If her husband wasn't looking after their children (always better for the kids to have their own parent looking after them anyway) then she would have been paying extortionate childcare fees.

Depending on all their circumstances, the fair decision a court may reach could actually be the husband being supported as the main carer and the OP having to leave the family home (what she's calling "her" house when it's a joint asset), which is what we often see with stay at home mothers who are main carers. I understand that OP is annoyed she did the lion's share of housework but how much housework a stay at home parent does is irrelevant in these circumstances.

OP, you mention the kids are living with you - I hope he has proper equitable time with them as the children's other parent? I say this as a child of divorce. They need him just as much as you, especially at such a horribly unsettling time with their parents splitting up. This will be all the more so since he was their main carer for a proportion of their childhood.