I don't know what to do here? Don't know if I'm being overly sensitive and have low self esteem or if I'm dating someone who really doesn't care.
We have been together for about 10 months and on many occasions when we are together I feel so criticised by him.
He brushes comments off as banter and jokes, and I love to play around. But there comes a point where it's just too much and I think I've finally reached that point tonight.. I'm led here next to him on the verge of tears because I don't know if I can keep doing this. Yet we are so good together and have so much fun.
An example... yesterday we went out and got caught in a downpour. We needed to nip to the shops before going in for the night. He had pretty much dried in the car on the way back to mine but I needed to change my trousers. He asked me to grab a hoodie for him and his car keys. Got back to the car and forgot his keys. This led to a 'joke' talk. How could he rely on me for anything if he can't even rely on me to remember his keys. He carried it on and I tried to play along but I said to him. It's really not funny and quite hurtful and I felt like I had to defend myself about all the things I do do. Then he twisted it back on me saying I was the one making a big thing out of it.
Another example... we went out to eat last week and the waitress came over to take our order. She asked if we had any allergies we both said no. Then once she had gone said to me 'any allergies, clearly you don't look at you' no I'm not skinny. But certainly no heavier than I was when we first met!! I pulled him up on it and he just laughs telling me he's joking.
These are just 2 recent examples but I could list loads! One of his favourites if I forget something or do something wrong... 'you had one job' again 'jokingly'. But it's constant!
Today I had a really stressful day with my kids 3 between 6 & 11 got caught in more rain he could see I was stressed as he seemingly cared and asked why I was so glum. I said I was tired. Then he starts with the criticism/banter/jokes. I said can you not sense I'm not in the mood. His reply... well that won't stop me. I'll just carry on pushing your buttons.
I didn't even know what to say to that.
If I'm overreacting, then I just need to have a word with myself. But having written this down. I don't think I am? He's not all bad at all, but he's words really hurt!