My Sister's 4 year old son (my nephew) stealing from my 2 year old son

[musicmama18]

Hi All,

Not too sure on this one.. Any advice greatly appreciated.

My sister's son is just turning 4. He comes to our house around twice a month and will often stay over with us all, me, my son, my husband, his mum etc.,

He is a lovely boy deep down but very difficult, massive tantrums, extreme attention seeking and at times heavy handed - needs to be kept a very close eye on when with my son.

Anyway, at my son's 2nd birthday a few months back, he took one of the toy cars that his dad (my DH) got him for his birthday. My heart broke. (yes, i'm very sensitive)

I only knew as I had popped to my sisters house for the day (her boy was at school) and she mentioned it. I asked for it back and kept it very lighthearted, but she couldn't find it. She said her son tried to hide it from her but she saw him playing with it in his room. I said not to worry just hand it to me next time.

my sister and her husband do not get on and argue a lot, hence why her son is attention seeking.

how on earth do i deal with this? or is this situation very common?

Also, a very big side note, but whenever they stay over her son wets the bed (of course, as he is only just turning 4) but my sister doesn't seem bothered at all. just takes the sheet off and leaves it by the side of the bed.

surely she should bring an absorbent mat or something? i certainly would no matter where I stayed?

Your poor nephew. If the bedwetting bothers you buy a waterproof sheet (which is still flannel on one side) in a supermarket for six quid or so - you'll need it for your DS soon enough.

You really don't sound kind, either with your nephew or Leolady although good job at posting something really bitchy to underline you're 'definitely not a bitch'.

If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck...

When my son was 3 he took my sisters engagement ring. He had a large Playmobile castle and wanted tressure to keep in his treasure chest. My sister told me she had lost her engagement ring that she did not wear very often and kept on bedside table. She made claim on house insurance. About 2 months later I was watching son play with his castle and after a few.minutes he brought me chest and told me he had tressure. I opened chest and my sisters engagement ring fell out. She was thrilled to get it back and no one called my son a thief or said he stole. My sister told my son she was happy he kept it safe for her in his chest. She had also bought new ring from insurance money and had to pay it back so ended up with 2 rings.

@musicmama18

I'm not a perfect parent, a bitch, nor am I perfect at all (far from it infact), have not claimed to be perfect - some responses on here have been brilliant and have highlight things i needed. *@Florencemattell* thanks very much.

Others, however, are very intense and angry. You really should watch how you speak to ppl, even if it is online and fellow parents as well, we all make mistakes and this is clearly one of my major ones.

Not cool.

Then right after this you took a bitchy dig at Leolady90s difficult situation. That's a low blow and not usually the done thing on here.

When my middle child was 4 he was like a magpie for shiny things. I had to pat him down like a shop lifter whenever we left anywhere