List the pros and cons of your OH

[BriocheBuns]

Hey

Debating whether or not I have a decent OH.

Thought you all could join me and list the pros and cons of yours. Mainly so I can get a sense of what a decent OH is as mines tells me I’m ungrateful! x

Pros:
A brilliant Dad
Very generous
I can totally rely on him
Very loyal

Makes me feel very loved and loves me just as I am
Great cook
Funny
Thinks I’m really funny
Not lazy at all
Admits his faults
Does at least his fair share of household jobs
Affectionate (more so than me)
Intelligent and knowledgeable
Has a good career
Thoughtful in lots of ways

CONS:
Takes quite a while to get over arguments
Teases people / can be a shit stirrer
Sometimes too shouty with the children
A hoarder / likes collecting stuff
Talks about work issues too much
Doesn’t do any household admin
Watches the TV with the volume turned up way too high
Not great at communicating
Can come across as rude and stand-offish
Snores very badly

Pros:
-Knows how to relax and unwind
-Plays with DCs
-Can cook
-Can pack bags for DCs remembering everything they would need
-Gives a good massage
-always asks if I'd like a cup of tea
-Intelligent
-reads
-Stable and secure

Cons:
-Negligent with health
-Tight with money
-Terrible diet
-scruffy

• negative and joyless

-low sex drive -pedantic

• black and white

-insular -unloving -insensitive -uncaring -needs reminding about things -untidy -selfish with free time

• irritable
• smells
• secretive
• non-communicative
• entitled

-unappreciative -Has to be asked to contribute -lazy and unmotivated -resistant to change

Pros
Generous with sex, gifts, money and back rubs. Applauds my efforts at exercise without telling me I should be doing it. Gets stuck into DIY projects at home. Loyal and utterly trustworthy. Hard working.

Cons
We have some quite big differences in values and share few interests which makes it hard work often. He wants sex more than I do. He doesn't do enough of the little jobs around the house. Poor at communicating and sensing the mood.

Pros
Kind
Very supportive
Affectionate
Thoughtful
Generous
Awesome with DS
Awesome with pets, especially ddog
Cooks almost everyday
Does all the food shopping
Tidies up
Generous with money
Plans thoughtful activities and gifts for me and DS
Patient
Extremely funny
Easy to talk to
Intelligent
Loving

Cons
Farts a lot
Has a bit of an oi oi lads, lads, lads past
Was a big drinker
Can have a tantrum if we don’t communicate properly over big stuff or when tired

Pros
Loads in common
Great dad
Works hard
Tells me he loves and is affectionate
Good sex life
Really makes me laugh
Priorities the kids and me in most things - seems at his happiest playing with the kids, baking, etc
Willing to go for therapy.

Cons
Doesn't look sfter his appearance /health
Addicted to internet porn and chatting to women online

It makes literally no sense.

Pros:

Loving
Kind/generous
Funny
Intelligent
Thoughtful
Touchy-feely, tactile, lots of hugs, hand holds and kisses
Great in bed
Generous in bed
Great with kids
Fabulous company
Patient
Brings me breakfast in bed every day
Gorgeous smile and twinkly eyes
Good personal hygiene
Tidy
Loves doing housework
Loves cooking (good at it too)
Hard worker
Loves spending time with me
Takes care of the garden and dogs
Runs most of the errands
Supports me and encourages me

Cons:

Gassy!
Balding
Snores
Perfectionist - hard on himself
Leaves washing up in the sink
Terrible at singing

Pro:

• Good at household admin and routine tasks (bins - I'm looking at you)
• Financially savvy
• Tells me I'm gorgeous
• Very tidy and organised
• Friendly, interesting and easy to talk to
• Encourages me in my career and my interests

Cons:

• Excessive toilet humour
• Parenting style is quite authoritarian which clashes with me
• Lacks spontaneity
• Expects me to be as tidy and organised as he is

Pros:

• I love his quirky sense of humour
• we have shared interests
• sensitive
• very good in bed - gets off on me getting off
• makes me feel safe
• I fit perfectly in his arms so I can snuggle his chest
• enjoys family time

Cons:

• not a great kisser
• autistic so can be hard work
• does not do house maintenance at all ever
• has to have very clear instructions for basic stuff around the house
• lower libido than me
• doesn’t do presents so I have to buy my own

All in all I wouldn’t change him, have just learnt to embrace his quirks and difficulties as he has mine.

Oh and he brings me coffee every morning before I’m out of bed!

I have to add that my husband smells wonderful and gives the best back scratches!

(As an aside OP, your OH sounds horrible )

Pros

Hilarious
Kind, selfless
Would lay down his life for me and his children
A good provider
Ambitious
A wonderful friend
Handsome
Still makes it clear he fancies me
Always says how much he appreciates me
Will do anything I ask/get me anything I want
Believes in me
Proud of me
Great sex
A good dad
Never holds a grudge or let's things rumble on

Cons

Can be very weak in standing up for himself/us
Has some disney dad tendencies
Terrible with money
Needs constant nagging to do life admin tasks.

Pros
He's willing to change nappies, feed the kids, look after sick kids and 100% shares the responsibility of kids. He's a great dad.

He's also very kind to me. He will go and get me anything I need. He's always trying to find answers to my problems. He checks up on me alot. Still compliments me to this day and has never flirted with another women.

Hard working.

Cons

He watches conspiracies
He doesn't get excited about anything really. I find this hard because I've always loved a giggle and bounce of jolly people.
He's always talking about work and it's so boring.
He snores
He is naturally messy.

Pros:
He loves me and treats me with respect, consideration and kindness.
And he still fancies me.
He's a great dad and grandad. He adores them and they adore him.
He never complains about my appalling cooking.
He never (well very rarely) beats me at Scrabble.
Cons:
Congenitally incapable of being on time.
Can't/doesn't cook, hence point 4 above.
Work always comes first, which I'm used to now but he has always prioritized it so that I brought up dcs practically single handed.
Can only operate at one speed. Not even having his trousers on fire would make him move faster.