I've posted about exdh before
Split 18 months ago. 3 dc but he hasnt seen them for 10 months.
He is paranoid, unstable and abusive.
We've had little contact but in the last month he has texted asking for our youngest ds 9 at Christmas. He wants him for 3 days despite no contact since last year.
Ds would be very uncomfortable and afraid.
I have been ignoring the texts but they have been coming. Asking questions about the breakdown, accusing me of sleeping with people, going on about how he loved me, I've ruined his life, the dc will be told, he will get online friends to cause trouble for me if I dont let him have dc.
Demanding to know why the elder teens have blocked him, who told them too, how he's going to take me to court, how everything about me will come out in public including the fact I had a termination.
Just relentless.
I spoke to a solicitor who wasnt really very helpful, they just told me to try and talk to him and arrange something if youngest dc wants to see him. He doesn't!!
A friend suggested I I report him to the police for harrasment and I'm tempted but I'm also scared it will provoke him to do something.
What will happen if I do ?
What is the process ?
Will they come out to me ?
I just dont know how to make this stop. He us mentally ill, literally unhinged, one text was a huge long racist rant its really quite frightening.