Jealousy - Instagram

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This feels very juvenile but what are your thoughts on instagram likes and following certain accounts.

He doesnt follow loads maybe a handful of those high following accounts that are very pretty model like accounts. And likes a few pics.

Is this pretty normal for nowadays?

Well I wouldn't like it.

I wouldn't like it either I made my ex unfollow them as I find it degrading

The thing is.. it doesn't matter if someone follows these accounts or not. Most of the high volume model/glamour model accounts have public accounts. So even if your partner isn't actively following any of these sleazy accounts.. he can still look them up in private and browse the photos.

I don't think it matters if it's normal, I think it matters that if it makes you uncomfortable, you can talk to him about it and you can respect each others boundaries.

Just tells me what they think of women in general. Objects for their satisfaction

I wouldn't care. Liking someone's photo isn't cheating.

Wouldn’t bother me unless it was obsessive.

Trouble is it can escalate to following more and more 'glamorous' unrealistic models, I dont think its harmless fun, it is degrading to women and understandably upsetting you. It's insidious and a little bit pervy.

It says a lot about what a man values in women . Ask these men to name women in history they respect and you can bet they couldn’t name one . The only thing they think women are worth is t and a

Some of the replies on this thread are fucking ludicrous

"It says a lot about what a man values in women . Ask these men to name women in history they respect and you can bet they couldn’t name one . The only thing they think women are worth is t and a"

Man follows pretty woman on social media and is therefore branded as undervaluing women and only interested in their tits and arses and not their brains?????

So if we are following that thread, no women are ever allowed to appreciate a man for being good looking, never allowed to comment on it or discuss a mans looks because otherwise; by your standards, that makes them prove themselves as undervaluing men and only interested in the size of their dicks.

I truly cannot believe women in real life exist with views like that.

@mrsmummy1111

Some of the replies on this thread are fucking ludicrous

"It says a lot about what a man values in women . Ask these men to name women in history they respect and you can bet they couldn’t name one . The only thing they think women are worth is t and a"

Man follows pretty woman on social media and is therefore branded as undervaluing women and only interested in their tits and arses and not their brains?????

So if we are following that thread, no women are ever allowed to appreciate a man for being good looking, never allowed to comment on it or discuss a mans looks because otherwise; by your standards, that makes them prove themselves as undervaluing men and only interested in the size of their dicks.

I truly cannot believe women in real life exist with views like that.

Huge difference between sayinb someone good looking and sleazing over almost naked women and ‘awarding ‘ them with likes for having good genes or being youthful It’s incredibly disrespectful , has zero to do with noticing or commenting to a friend that someone good looking.

And btw mrsmumny how many women do you know that follow a string of men who twerk online wearing g strings ? How many of these women are in their 50s following 20 yr old men doing this ? And sending them lovely little likes for the world to see how much it turns them on?
Seriously , some women need to lift their standards if they find this acceptable behaviour from men

I follow some male pornstars on Instagram doesn't mean I obsess over them. Wouldn't bother me.

Gosh, it’s disturbing folks think like this, degrading, he only values t and a? Is it the same for women who follow attractive men?

I do, I follow famous men I think are attractive, does this mean I’m degrading my husband or the men concerned? Does this mean I only see men as objects? It’s such a ludicrous and non sensical thought process.

I couldn’t give a shit who my husband followed, and I’d be very annoyed if he checked who I was following and “made me” stop, I’d tell him to go fuck himself

I think when you’ve deteriorated to a level that even liking someone’s online Images has you all jealous you need to look to your own insecurities and jealousy issues, because it’s far from healthy.

I honestly can’t believe that women exist today with views such as mrsmummmy1111.
Clearly women’s rights have it come far in a world where men are entitled to publically degrade and rate women’s bodies and other women will condone it.

Well done for setting us all back 50 years

@Ladylovesbooks

And btw mrsmumny how many women do you know that follow a string of men who twerk online wearing g strings ? How many of these women are in their 50s following 20 yr old men doing this ? And sending them lovely little likes for the world to see how much it turns them on? Seriously , some women need to lift their standards if they find this acceptable behaviour from men

Gosh you need to calm down. She didn’t say he was viewing women twerking in a g string, she said he was following a few high profile pretty model like accounts.

None of us know what’s causing your rage, but you need to try to not project it onto the op and what her partner is doing.

I would think it was the most tragic, juvenile thing I’d ever heard of — the 2020 equivalent of a grown man slavering over posters of Pamela Anderson — and my vagina would slam shut permanently where he was concerned.

It wouldn't bother me personally, as long as he treats women in real life with kindness and respect.

@Bluntness100

Gosh, it’s disturbing folks think like this, degrading, he only values t and a? Is it the same for women who follow attractive men?

I do, I follow famous men I think are attractive, does this mean I’m degrading my husband or the men concerned? Does this mean I only see men as objects? It’s such a ludicrous and non sensical thought process.

I couldn’t give a shit who my husband followed, and I’d be very annoyed if he checked who I was following and “made me” stop, I’d tell him to go fuck himself

I think when you’ve deteriorated to a level that even liking someone’s online Images has you all jealous you need to look to your own insecurities and jealousy issues, because it’s far from healthy.

Actually I think when we have deteriorated to the level that it’s considered a pastime or hobby to rate women’s bodies publcally that’s when it’s gone too far For those who say they follow men , well good for them . The reality is that there 1000 x more almost naked women on Instagram than men and this it’s predominately men following naked women rather than the other way around . Women following naked men are the minority . Huge double standard and of course we will always have the porn lovers and mysogynistic here supporting this crap .

If my husband was liking pictures of woman online I I wouldn't be happy about it tbh. He wouldnt if it was the other way around either.

no rage . But I think any of us that know what Models on instagrams are know this is not beyond what can be expected . Perhaps this particular op partner isn’t following twerking G. String models Yet but they certainly are on there
Are you and mummy claiming that the models are fine but twerking in g strings crosses your lines
Come on now

Is it normal, no, however some people are trying to normalise it to make you feel like you're the one who's wrong.

It's not OK, it's degrading and says a lot about how he views women. Only you can say whether that spills out into how he treats you. It's a red flag for me, very immature and mysogynistic, hopefully you'll see the same and take the right action.

@Treacletoots

Is it normal, no, however some people are trying to normalise it to make you feel like you're the one who's wrong.

It's not OK, it's degrading and says a lot about how he views women. Only you can say whether that spills out into how he treats you. It's a red flag for me, very immature and mysogynistic, hopefully you'll see the same and take the right action.

Thankyou treacietoots for being a voice of sanity here . I know that many of us are at a place where we are expecting and have the self respect to expect more from our partners . I just don’t understand why some people feel the need to stand by and say yeah it’s fine even when he has to declare his hard on over the Instagram model to the world I see nothing wrong with noticing others are attractive but to actively sit down and make a hobby or sport out of looking at sexualised images of other men / women and sending them likes to show them how attracted you are to them - just why . It reeks of disrespect for ones partner , shallowness , a lack of better things to do with ones time , a support of the sex industry ( in some cases ) and mostly just immaturity

I've no idea who he follows on Instagram, it's non of my business. As it's non of his business who I follow. I love my husband and trust him, therefore I don't need to check what he is doing online.

I wouldn’t bat an eye!! It baffles me people get upset/jealous over this kind of thing.

You’ll get ample support here though because the bulk of the posters live on a far away planet void of reality.