Paying 50/50

[mummy412]

Those you of living with partners do you spilt bills rent etc 50/50?

My partner has moved in and has yet to contribute to anything. I've made it clear he needs to pay something especially if I'm buying food etc he's helping himself too.

So far I pay everything

How long ago did he move in? Of course he should pay half. If he’s refusing to contribute then I’d be moving back out sharpish

How long has he lived with you? What a tightwad, what does he say when you tell him?

Stop being a mug and kick the cocklodger out immediately. His blatant lack of respect and consideration for you is appalling. Do not put up with this. I'd be willing to bet this was his plan all along.

What did you agree before he moved in?

Officially moved in august. We weren't living together officially he was staying over etc was here a lot so just decided to make it official by moving all his things here. We have a daughter who is 6 months old now . Think I'll be discussing it with him tonight

We split ours according to wages. DH earns twice as much as me so pays twice as much into the joint account as me which covers things like mortgage, insurance, bills. Then we take turns filling up the car, paying for lunch out, paying for food shop etc.

Dh earns five times what I do so he pays a higher percentage of the bills.

Think I'll be discussing it with him tonight

This isn't the time for a discussion, it's time for an ultimatum. He either starts contributing 50% immediately, plus what he already owes you, or he's out. This isn't up for debate.

You have a sixth month old daughter together and he is yet to contribute to your home financially? Wtf?

Has he been contributing child support at all?

This seems to be a cocklodger situation, you have. What is wrong with these twats?

How on earth didn't this come up before you had a child!?

50/50 and then we each have our own small bills (phone / subscriptions etc) separately.

He earns more than me but it's my flat, so it wouldn't feel right for him to pay a bigger proportion.

How much does he earn? Do you earn similar amounts?

I think the ideal is to pay in proportion to earnings. But I guess it depends if the plan is a life partnership, pooling resources - or it's still early days and he just needs to pay his way, really.

If the latter, he should be paying half the bills and groceries, and he should be paying half your baby's costs too.

There's a great thread called, cocklodgers, myth or reality. I suggest you have a read of that.

Dp pays a certain amount into my account ( less than 50/50) but I own the house and earn slightly more. However we don't have children together, your partner needs to contribute. It's not a good reflection on him at all

I just can't understand how this can happen. Presumably he was paying rent or a mortgage before he moved in, and bills, too. Did he REALLY think he could live with you for nothing? I would love to watch a documentary on this, where these cocklodgers were tortured questioned until the truth rattled out of them.

Sorry nothing to do with thread really but just catching up on threads and can I ask what the fuck is wrong with most men?

Op, this is unbelievable. How on earth can he think what he's doing is ok?! Does he contribute anything financially to his child? Does he work? Where does his money go?

Jesus I can't believe this WTF!!!!!!!

You live together, You’ve got a child and he doesn’t contribute?

Does he pay anything towards your daughter?

Me and my partner split everything 50/50. Does he not pay anything at all? Not even towards your child? Did you discuss finances before he moved in? Surely he can’t expect to just not pay anything!

So you agreed nothing before you had a child together in April and then nothing before he moved into your place in August ?

I’m confused how you could Make such big life changes / decisions and not even talk about it.

How much does he earn and how much child support does he pay?

Was he by any chance paying you maintenance until he moved in?

Come on, woman, give your head a wobble. Of COURSE most partners share the bills, because most people aren't piss-takers. Just turn the x-box off (because i bet theres an x-box), and tell him that he needs to contribute £xxx to the family pot now that you all live together.

Sorry nothing to do with thread really but just catching up on threads and can I ask what the fuck is wrong with most men?

You could say the same thing about women.

This mumsnet obsession of moving men into their homes is wierd. I don't see it in real life but for some reason, an awful lot of mumsnetters seem to have cocklodgers.