Have I don the right thing

[Leigh1975]

Feel really bad ! 6 year relationship ended partner is leaving Friday and has booked a hotel .. he's not a bad person works and pays his way , but he's mentally draining smokes a lot of weed and waste money gambling , then constantly lends money all week even though he's on a good wage and has plenty of money for himself .. he gets very defensive if I point anything out to him and it ends up with days of nasty self eroding texts to the point he's nasty calls me fat and my private parts ... he becomes loud ... he can't cope with the world and can be very racist in my opinion but drowns his views on me and when o disagree I am dumb down .... he's a conspiracy theorist and I am not I can repeat his opinion but yet again when I don't agree he's a cunt !!! He don't have many friends and can't turn to family ... i jsit look at his warm nice side and the love he has for our son , but he affects my mental health and work life .. I joust feel bad he has to stay in a hotel and has no one else

Ugh. Op, life is hard enough without having a verbally abusive, druggie, racist loner as a partner. Don’t you think?

You've done the right thing. Don't look back.

You know why he has to stay in a hotel and has no one else, right? Cos he's a racist, verbally abusive dope smoking, gambling, conspiracy theorist wanker no one likes!

If he wasn't a racist, verbally abusive, dope smoking, gambling conspiracy theorist wanker he might have friends or family he could stay with.

If he wasn't a racist, verbally abusive, dope smoking, gambling, conspiracy theorist wanker he won't need somewhere else to stay in the first place.

Unless you somehow have a godlike power to made him a racist.....................wanker, this is all his own doing.

Don't let the fact you are a nice person fuck you up by allowing feeling 'bad' to stop you doing what is right.

Totally the right thing - who needs an abusive druggie, sponging racist in their life! well done you. Life will be sooooo much better without him and your son will grow up to be a much better man.

You know why he has to stay in a hotel and has no one else, right? Cos he's a racist, verbally abusive dope smoking, gambling, conspiracy theorist wanker no one likes!

Exactly this! I'd be paying his hotel bill, I'd be so delighted he'd gone.

Plan a lovely week next week. You'll have loads more money and freedom.

You've already wasted 6 years, don't waste another day.

Thingsdog has it spot on..

“Totally the right thing - who needs an abusive druggie, sponging racist in their life! well done you. Life will be sooooo much better without him and your son will grow up to be a much better man.”

This and what other PPs said.

Thanks for all your replies I've been here so many times but no more I'm to nice for my own good .. he can be very vile and abusive and yes he's had a shit upbringing and uses that has a weapon in to understanding for my own good and can't do it anymore he affects my work and life and I just get up in the morning and don't want it anymore

You've absolutely done the right thing. I bet druggie gambler etc wasn't and isn't on your list of what you want in a partner. xxx

He is a bad person.
He doesn't pay his way.
He's verbally abusive.
He's a gambling addict.
He's cruel.

Breaking up with him is the best thing that will ever happen to you.