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[Halliehallie9828]

Been seeing someone for 5 months.

We decided today due to other factors to stop seeing each other and I asked him to block me on what’s app etc so we didn’t have to chat anymore and that way we won’t be tempted to talk.

I noticed his ‘last seen’ and picture disappeared so presumed I was blocked. All good.

This evening I felt a bit sad while watching tv so decided to write a little message to him. I knew it wouldn’t deliver but it was more of a therapeutic diary entry for myself. It just mentioned how I was feeling a bit sad and some other non important crap!

I clicked send expecting it to ONE TICK but it’s now got TWO GREY TICKS.
I cannot see his picture or last seen.

Will this message deliver to him? Im mortified!!! He was never supposed to read it as I thought I was blocked.

Is there anyway I can be blocked and it still gets 2 grey ticks?

This happened to me, he deleted your number and his settings are so that you can’t see his pic if he doesn’t have you as a contact

If you want to write some therapeutic/cathartic message to him, why not put it in notes or something?

Writing it to him on WA seems like a way of trying to keep the relationship alive, now you have all the angst about did he/didn’t he see it. If you’re serious about finishing it, do you both a favour and step away from WhatsApp! Any contact, or even considering contact, wondering why he hasn’t contacted you etc is just dragging it out for longer. I know why you do it, I’ve done the same, but you need to be honest with yourself about whether you’re secretly wishing it would all work out rather than being serious about moving on.

@MarkRuffaloCrumble

If you want to write some therapeutic/cathartic message to him, why not put it in notes or something?

Writing it to him on WA seems like a way of trying to keep the relationship alive, now you have all the angst about did he/didn’t he see it. If you’re serious about finishing it, do you both a favour and step away from WhatsApp! Any contact, or even considering contact, wondering why he hasn’t contacted you etc is just dragging it out for longer. I know why you do it, I’ve done the same, but you need to be honest with yourself about whether you’re secretly wishing it would all work out rather than being serious about moving on.

I agree that I think by me putting it in what’s app was a way to keep communication alive/open subconsciously. I just thought it would be a good idea to write down how I felt and ‘send it’ so it’s ‘gone’.

Next time I will take your advice and write it in a message and send it to myself!

I’m 100% going to move on. I wasn’t at the love stage but I did like him. Iv blocked him now instead so he can’t reply to the message.

I think part of you wrote it to see if it would send to him and hoping it would. I think you should keep him blocked now and delete his number so you aren't tempted again. Write your feelings on a piece of paper and burn it if you need to, don't try to contact him again!

@Halliehallie9828 I think we are all guilty of subconsciously keeping communication alive even though we say we are not. This is just Day 1. You will have your up and down days. It will get easier though.