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Halliehallie9828 · 12/10/2020 20:25

Been seeing someone for 5 months.

We decided today due to other factors to stop seeing each other and I asked him to block me on what’s app etc so we didn’t have to chat anymore and that way we won’t be tempted to talk.

I noticed his ‘last seen’ and picture disappeared so presumed I was blocked. All good.

This evening I felt a bit sad while watching tv so decided to write a little message to him. I knew it wouldn’t deliver but it was more of a therapeutic diary entry for myself. It just mentioned how I was feeling a bit sad and some other non important crap!

I clicked send expecting it to ONE TICK but it’s now got TWO GREY TICKS.
I cannot see his picture or last seen.

Will this message deliver to him? Im mortified!!! He was never supposed to read it as I thought I was blocked.

Is there anyway I can be blocked and it still gets 2 grey ticks?

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Original poster
Halliehallie9828 · 12/10/2020 20:26

No this wasn’t an affair either before anyone asks! Grin

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Bluntness100 · 12/10/2020 20:26

Just delete it. Press on it and delete for all.

Kittykat93 · 12/10/2020 20:27

Why didn't you block him? Don't think it should be two ticks if you're blocked.. Sounds like he unblocked you

Bluntness100 · 12/10/2020 20:27

Oh and I think you’re still blocked. What’s app does it so you can’t tell you’ve been blocked, it just looks delivered and unread.

Bluntness100 · 12/10/2020 20:28

Sorry I’m wrong, he has unblocked you. It shouldn’t show two ticks.

hellymum21 · 12/10/2020 20:35

I recently discovered you can change what's app so you others don't get to see you 'last seen'. A friend of mine does it and I get the ticks but just can't see when he was last online in the same way I can with others who I message on what's app. Could be he's just changed this and never blocked you?

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Halliehallie9828 · 12/10/2020 20:35

I didn’t block him as I thought he blocked me. I don’t feel any ill feelings towards him so didn’t feel the need. All signs showed he had.

His picture is still gone and I still can’t see his last seen.

Iv now deleted the message by pressing delete for everyone.

I have an iPhone but he has an android phone so I know it’s set out differently.

Still mortified that he could of seen it Blush

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Bluntness100 · 12/10/2020 20:37

If it didn’t turn blue he won’t have seen it.

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Halliehallie9828 · 12/10/2020 20:37

@hellymum21

I recently discovered you can change what's app so you others don't get to see you 'last seen'. A friend of mine does it and I get the ticks but just can't see when he was last online in the same way I can with others who I message on what's app. Could be he's just changed this and never blocked you?
It could be possible.

I have my settings to not show my picture if I don’t have their phone number saved but his has always shown and the same with his last seen.

It’s possible he just deleted my number and changed his settings Envy

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Halliehallie9828 · 12/10/2020 20:38

@Bluntness100

If it didn’t turn blue he won’t have seen it.
Good!! It was a couple of paragraphs of self indulgent feelings.

I’m not heartbroken, just felt a little sad!!

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valtandsinegar · 12/10/2020 20:39

That's really weird. If you can't see his profile pic I'd assume you were blocked, but two ticks definitely means not blocked.

mintyt · 12/10/2020 20:41

I'm sorry that your sad, be brave and strong too

Thesheerrelief · 12/10/2020 20:43

He's deleted your number and has his settings adjusted so only his contacts can see his profile pic

AdelaideK · 12/10/2020 20:45

He could have read it without the ticks going blue btw.

On the notification I can read it without going on what's app and it doesn't go blue tick.

Bluntness100 · 12/10/2020 20:45

@Thesheerrelief

He's deleted your number and has his settings adjusted so only his contacts can see his profile pic
This answers it, he’s deleted your contact details and his settings are only his contacts can see his pic etc, but he’s not blocked you.
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Halliehallie9828 · 12/10/2020 20:46

@Thesheerrelief

He's deleted your number and has his settings adjusted so only his contacts can see his profile pic
That’s what I’m thinking now.

I know for a fact it wasn’t like that before which is why I presumed blocked!

I was just hoping that I was blocked.

Iv deleted the message now so fingers crossed it never flashed up on his screen and he read it first!

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Brot64 · 12/10/2020 20:46

It doesn't have to show blue ticks to have been delivered if his setting are set so. If it shows two ticks then he probably didn't block you but has privacy settings that allow only people on his contact list to see his last seen, picture and delivery status(blue ticks), which means he deleted your number but didn't block you.

Brot64 · 12/10/2020 20:48

Sorry cross post.

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Halliehallie9828 · 12/10/2020 20:49

Thanks everyone.

I was just hoping I was blocked!

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Palavah · 12/10/2020 20:50

Just block him

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Halliehallie9828 · 12/10/2020 20:51

I have blocked him now.

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PleasantVille · 12/10/2020 20:51

@Bluntness100

If it didn’t turn blue he won’t have seen it.
I have an android phone and I can read messages on the notification screen without ever opening them and the sender doesn't get the blue ticks

I have two phones and have tested it before Grin

deenar · 12/10/2020 20:59

You're not blocked !
He's deleted your number & has WhatsApp set so only contacts see his pic ...

deenar · 12/10/2020 21:00

Also it doesn't need to turn blue for someone to have read your message..
When you press delete it says everyone/ me..that's unread.
If it only has the option to delete for you, it's been read.

princessconsulabananahammock · 12/10/2020 21:05

Stay strong @Halliehallie9828. Well done at blocking as well. It’s hard but for the best. Wish it was something I had done in the past.