Crying over a man I ended it with

[PatKelly]

Dated a man for 4 years up until 4 months ago when I finally ended it as he was a cocklodger.
I had been doing well after we split and keeping busy with hobbies and my family etc.
We got chatting last week online again and I slept with him on Wednesday. I since found out he had been on a date with somebody else since we split and I feel like I’m upset all over again like I was at the start of the breakup. I keep crying and can’t sleep.
It’s pathetic I know as I ended it. Any advice (other than don’t sleep with him again!)

The only advice you need is to block him permanently out of your life, but you already know that, so do it.

Block and move on. Cocklodgers are awful, you need to crowd out this man from your thoughts. Get busy with a project, or spend lots of time phoning friends or zoom chatting with them, explain how you feel to supportive friends and they'll keep you right. You need to keep busy so you don't have time to dwell on this awful man.

You know what you have to do. This man is very toxic to you. Do not try to remember the good times you shared. Make a list of all the bad things he did. But most of all, block him on every format, phone, social media, WhatsApp etc. You aren’t going to be able to heal if he is on the scene.
You deserve so much better