Worried about dating - overweight

[Goldmidnight]

I’ve gained about 2 stone in the last year or so, partly because I had an operation and I was then on medication which causes weight gain for some time. Lockdown definitely didn’t help either!

I wasn’t tiny to start with, I was around 10.5-11 stone (I’m 5 foot 6.) now I’m around 12.5-13 stone I don’t carry the weight well at all, I’m very pear shaped and I feel really self conscious of my size and how my body has changed.

I have been speaking to someone new recently and it’s going well, we were speaking about meeting up this week but I’m feeling nervous because of my weight gain! He has seen full body photos of me, but I feel awfully self conscious.

I am doing something to get back down to a healthy weight but it’s a slow process and I don’t want to put my life/dating on hold. Or should I wait another few months before meeting anyone?

Has anyone else dealt with this, and do you have any tips?
Tia

You're naturally nervous before your date, if it wasn't about the weight-gain it would be something else.

Go along with no expectation, just to enjoy yourself. He'll be nervous too!

And @talltreewessex, you're really making friends this morning Maybe have another coffee?

@talltreewessex you have to be a troll... no one could be that dense surely?

I’ll just stop taking my lupus medication and my daily steroids then and die shall I? Because that’s the only way I will lose weight.

You need to sort out your self-esteem before you start dating, not your weight.

The wrong kind of man will smell your inferiority complex a mile off.

@ArcheryAnnie

Move more. Eat less. It’s so simple. Happy to be flamed but it is easy. You have the gift of being healthy within you.

@talltreewessex congratulations! You have discovered the hidden secret to dieting success! I am sure the world - and us fatties - thank you most sincerely. I never knew it was so easy!

So eloquently put :)

@JimmyJabs

Spot on. As Bill Hicks once said to audience members who had identified themselves as being ex-smokers: "I'd give up if I want so scared I'd turn into one of you . . . "

wasn't 🙄

Just go for it and don’t worry! I’m old and overweight but met my lovely DP on online dating.

Honestly, relax and enjoy it.