Sadly we don't see them due to their mum corrupting their mind

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This is what a man has just told me on POF!

"I have a 15 year old girl and 9 year old twin boys, sadly we don't see them due to their mum corrupting their mind"

Big alarm bells? What man wouldn't fight to see their children?!

Who’s “we”?

'We' don't see them?! Who's we? Massive red flag all over.

Ha Vodsel! Cross post!

Who's "we".

Why should he have to fight?

We? That'll be him and his wife he still lives with.

Ok, let's say it's true. Is that the kind of situation you want to be inviting into your life?

It could be him and his side of the family. But yeah I'd have some alarm bells

Yeah whos We?? unless he means like him. and his Mum, whenever i hear that though i think 😬, probably a reason mate.

I wouldn’t get involved
Sounds messy

'We' probably in a new relationship.

Why not fight? Perhaps he feels it would be too damaging to the children to be caught up in a big legal fight. Maybe he doesn't have the money to pursue custody. Who knows. Let's just condemn him anyway based on our own prejudices.

I took it as him and his daughter.

Run for your life

While it does happen parental alienation is rare and anyone who feels they are really alienated can go to court

Oh and he wanted my number after chatting just today, I declined!

You wouldn't write that on your first chat would you?

Naa he is just testing you see how desperate you are he needs a woman behind him to give himself credibility

So he has a 15 year old daughter he sees, but also 9 year old twins who he doesn’t?

Three kids, two exes including one “psycho ex”

More baggage than Heathrow.

What man wouldn't fight for his children AND what person would say something so personal (and frankly ridiculous sounding) in initial chats?! Next!

Huge massive alarm bells

Hes setting the stage for the 'mad' unreasonable ex for when the eventually finds out who you are and tries to put you wise to what an atrocious father he is

It really is shocking what you find on there, believe me I've seen allsorts over the years. I've wondered why I'm on there lots of times!

Thanks for the replies!

Wouldn't ring alarm bells to me having dealt with a woman who did this in front of my very eyes. I'd ask who "we" is though!!

Though I wouldn't get involved with a man with a batshit ex so actually yes alarm bells. Run for the hills op.

I’m a mum and I was in a similar situation (not so bad now as the dc are older). Parental alienation isn’t rare. His post doesn’t say he hasn’t fought. And a big legal battle is not always the best solution.

Yes it’s messy and I wouldn’t take that situation on - but people are very naive about this stuff jumping to all sorts of conclusions, with no experience. How do you fight for your children when they are turned against you. Family court is not always the answer believe me.

This idea that FC is the answer to (well almost anything TBH) is naive at best. From my personal experience it’s an expensive gamble, loaded towards the RP.

Putting aside my own experience, I have seen, with an old neighbour, how easy it is to go through numerous court cases and prove your allegations. Only for the RP to just ignore the findings and have no sanction applied against them, forcing the other parent back into court to repeat the exact same loop.

It cost him multiple 10s of thousands. He had to remortgage as did his parents. At what point do you have to accept that all you’re doing is throwing money into a broken system?

That aside, OP, it IS a lot of drama to get sucked into so best to find another Fish

Men who want to see their kids see their kids. Women who don't accept this soon end up married to deadbeats.

Don't ever give men the benefit of the doubt when it comes to parenting.