Sadly we don't see them due to their mum corrupting their mind

[nolovelost]

This is what a man has just told me on POF!

"I have a 15 year old girl and 9 year old twin boys, sadly we don't see them due to their mum corrupting their mind"

Big alarm bells? What man wouldn't fight to see their children?!

It's strange and unusual for three children to share one mind.

You've made some massive assumptions there that he didn't fight for them! And yes lots of mothers can be very manipulative when it comes to their kids in a relationship break down and not facilitate the father and his family seeing them.

I'd take the "we" as bring him and his family

Wouldn't ring alarm bells for me as seen it first hand. The mother is vile and never kept to the court order and was dragged again and again to court. In the end, the father ran out of money (yes you can self rep) but when you are up against a barrister and accused of awful things as well as working it's very difficult to do. She accused him of everything under the sun, each one investigated and shown to be bullshit but delayed every hearing. Father was concerned about the distress it was causing the kids. Kids have just finished university and are in contact with the father now as living away from home made them realise how toxic their mother was. Unfortunately not the only case I know of. Another relative has full time custody of kids but he was just about to give up before it was granted (he decided to take her back to court one final time).

Although I do agree that it's odd to say immediately to someone you have just started talking to..

And to add, I wasnt in a relationship with the two cases above but supported both of them and read all the paperwork/reports (so not taken in on some line). Some mothers are very manipulative.

Move on. You don't need his baggage. Even if it's true, which I doubt.

Honestly it happens all the time kids used as weapon and get caught up in crossfire .
Or he could be deadbeat dad who doesn't bother either way got grief and drama written all over it .
Steer clear.

Odd that he mentioned this straight away.

I have however witnessed mothers use their children like this due to bitterness. It most definitely does happen, often after a bad separation.

Sounds messy though since you’re not invested. I’m sure there are guys with less baggage out there.

@berks

We? That'll be him and his wife he still lives with.

Using the word poisoning in connection with his ex before you've even met is a massive red flag, whatever has happened between them.

It takes some pretty serious stuff for a court to forbid contact with the non-resident parent, so if there is court order in place, he's clearly believed to present a danger to his children by more than just his ex.

If there is no such court order, he could just be a parent who has not bothered to turn up enough times for the children to lose faith in his parenting and vote with their feet.

It's hard to see s scenario where he comes out of this with much credit, as he's clearly given up fighting for his kids for one reason or another, of he ever did.