Do all online relationships start by nudes?

[robin04031402]

Or am I just speaking to the wrong people?

I'm in my early 20s and every guy I have spoken to online has either mentioned nudes or sent nudes within hours of adding me on social media.

Is there really any hope of meeting a decent guy online or is sending nudes just the norm nowadays?

Online dating has had it's day now and is quite old fashioned.

Maybe look at meeting someone real life. I think sending dick pics and nudes is pretty normal for online dating to be honest.

Yeuch. Definitely talking to the wrong people. But I am dubious of the quality of any men on OLD. Which app are you using?

I do not think nudes are the norm for people looking for a relationship. Don't put up with it. Don't engage.

No not usual.
But unsolicited dick pics are commen unfortunately.

It's a way of the trash taking itself out.

If they send you unwanted dick pics, block 'em.

I wouldn't be sending nudes to any randomer either.

If they want to talk and get to know you, or ask you out on date, then they might be worth talking back to. But no nude sending (unless you get off on it and don't mind too much if they end up wherever). Personally I'd keep nude picture-sharing to someone you're in a long term relationship with only, if you're going to.

You get to decide your own standards in life.

No no no. I'm 25 and Internet dating (well, app dating, Bumble) and havent sent or received nudes. Think I may have been sent one dick pic in the last few months, the app blurred the photo so I simply knew what if was and unmatched.

Anyone worth your time will not do this. I know how hard it is to meet people IRL at this time (I'm somewhere were all pubs, bars, restaurants etc are closed) and from my experience there are some normal, genuine people in the apps - just have to read between the lines and have high standards!

Persevere with OLD as it takes time , decide what you want and make it clear in your profile then don't lower your standards , just use any unwanted scummy nude photos as a way to filter out men that are not suitable
Good luck

I went on Tinder and didn’t get this, but I am a lot older than you (early 40s), and also like older men so set my age range 40-60. To be honest all the blokes I chatted to were reasonably respectful (some clingy, some boring, but non disrespectful)) and I met one I really like and am now seeing.

My friend is a bit younger than me and looking for younger guys, and she does get a fair few dick pics. I dunno if this is just coincidence or if it’s a generational trend?

I think every women should send nude photos when a bloke asks....just not necessarily of themselves or even of the same sex! Sadly the art of conversation and date i say it seduction has been well and truly lost. As for dick pics I'm tempted to set up a website that allows people to upload the pictures and name and shame the person who sent it. Just need a catchy name!

No.

I love what @category12 said about the trash taking themselves out! So true.

They are deluded aren't they?

If men really think that on seeing a dick pic, women will go "Phwoar, I want some of that." then they have another think coming. There is literally nothing remotely appealing about the sight of a random stranger's junk.

Er no. I'm sitting next to him now about to complete on a house together and certainly no nudes! Perhaps it's a young man thing?

I'm with @coldgraybrix they are absolutely deluded. But unfortunately it's extremely common.
Maybe stag chatting to them for longer on the dating site rather than moving to What's app etc?

Gross. No. That’s not usual.

@jdoejnr1

I think every women should send nude photos when a bloke asks....just not necessarily of themselves or even of the same sex! Sadly the art of conversation and date i say it seduction has been well and truly lost. As for dick pics I'm tempted to set up a website that allows people to upload the pictures and name and shame the person who sent it. Just need a catchy name!

What about something like this?

Yes, I am 58 and when I online dated I would get them from old men, it made me heave.
Needless to say they never got a date.

@MontenotteandStLukes

Haha exactly like that

Or this.

That's progress for you. In the old days, people had to go to the park to flash you. These days they can do it in the comfort of their own home.
Of course that's not how they start a relationship.

I've never had a nudes request so either I'm doing something really right or really wrong lol.

I usually wouldn't spend hours talking to a guy online though these days. A couple of quick conversations then arrange a date.

And any hint of dirty talk before then and i'd boost. Because they arent gonna randomly send nudes without the tone going that way first. Well, unless they are sex pests.

Er, no.
Anyone who does that should be blocked.

No, they don't all ask for nudes! I'm mid-twenties and it really is a mixed bag..
I tend to block those who start with rude comments or ask for nudes.
Hold out hope OP! I'm speaking to a lovely one now and our first date is planned for Sunday! But I did have to filter through a few gross ones first
Good luck!

I don't think OLD has had its day- most single people do OLD on and off.

Yes there are a lot of twats on there just after pics/something sexual. Bin them immediately if you're after something more. A couple can do sexting etc if you personally want to, but a bit later on in the relationship.

There are some decent men on there- some women find partners or husbands there.

I’m married and in my 50’s so not on OLD ,,however if I wAs, first sign of sexual talk (and we hadn’t met) or sending or requesting anything other than a standard dressed shot, I would be unmatching/blocking.

@jdoejnr1

I think every women should send nude photos when a bloke asks....just not necessarily of themselves or even of the same sex! Sadly the art of conversation and date i say it seduction has been well and truly lost. As for dick pics I'm tempted to set up a website that allows people to upload the pictures and name and shame the person who sent it. Just need a catchy name!

Could you call it 'Naked Mole Rat Identity Parade'?

Or just 'Dick Heads.'

I think your looking at the wrong people. I haven't done OLD since before I met my DP years ago but I remember then all the creeps that thought I would want to see pics of their shrivelled up penis. All they were interested in was a shag. If I become single again I'm certain I wouldn't turn to OLD!