How do I prove she's crazy ? He doesn't believe me?

[saddff]

I started working at a new job September 2019.
I became friends with a girl and we got on well.
We started going on nights out/weekends away etc.
On a night out she introduced me to one of her guy friends (told me he was a player but encouraged me if I wanted to have fun for the night to go for it )
Anyway me and him got on great,we started texting and had some dates.
She changed on me altogether,stopped texting,stopped wanting to hang out.
On a date he told me she warned him off me saying I slept around (I don't ) that I was clingy (I'm not ) and I was like his ex (who he had a bad relationship with )
She made it difficult and told him if he wanted to remain friends with her he could but she would not socialise with me.
I seen her in a pub and went over and asked her if she was ok,I said I'm sorry if I offended her in some way and could we meet for a cuppa and a chat.
She said yes she would text me.
The next day he rang me really angry "I've spoke to "Alice" why did you threaten her last night ? This is too much like my ex's behaviour " and hung up.
I didn't threaten her.
She told him I ran up debts in my ex's name,I stalked my ex boyfriend and I was bad news.
I tried calling him 3 times no answer
I sent him 2 texts explaining that she was twisting and lying.
He's reply was long saying
"Your a liar,my friend is not a liar,I don't know what game your trying to play,leave me alone or il call the police,your crazy"
Then blocked me
She's totally ruined this
What the hell
How do I prove it ?

Oh my god! She sounds like she is obsessed with you, she’s obviously
Jelous you have a
New job.. so if he knows that ended up being a lie from her, why can’t he see what she’s like?! But you could explain yourself forever but he doesn’t want to see it! If you ever see her in a pub or whatever again, set your phone to record as you go and say hello and speak to her.. would be quite funny to squash her lies with facts then if she tried to say you started on her again!

What an utter loon! This is truly awful. She’s obviously extremely jealous & insecure and probably has a bit of a crush on him herself. Sorry you are going through this OP - you’re doing the right thing cutting them off.

@saddff

They've been friends for years. I suppose you can understand why he would believe her over someone he's only known a few months🤷‍♀️

It's either she wants a relationship with him, he doesn't want one with her or he wants a relationship with her, she doesn't want one with him, so the dynamic is screwed.

I would say it's her, she drove the ex away in the same way, because he doesn't want her, and she doesn't want him having anyone.

He loves the drama of having a woman around who likes him, and completely feeds off her!

@AcrobaticCardigan I know she has problems with her mental health,she's threatened to jump off a bridge when her ex dumped her.
She's addicted to painkillers.
So I know she's got issues but she's just totally went for me.
It's sickening

@differentnameforthis well before me and him spoke she was telling me about the ex "she's crazy" "made his life hell"
Etc etc
Maybe he is the crazy maker

She fancies him. She’s used personal knowledge to turn him against you. I feel sorry for him. Just beat stay away.

Wow they sounds nuts.

Maybe the crazy ex was in the same position as you, and this girl did the same thing to her. It can only happen so many times before he will realise surely.

@HumptyD he doesn't want to see it at all.
Maybe he doesn't want to be wrong.
I guess he doesn't want to loose the friendship so would rather believe I'm the nut job than her.
Hopefully she will show her true colours one day but I will be long gone by then.

@Imloosingmyshit funny you should say that because one of her messages to mutual friend said
"Come on,she's saying I'm trying to turn people against her,if that was true wouldn't I of done that with you instead rather than him"
Then she went on to say ..
"She's also been slating my dad (I haven't done that either )

one of her messages to mutual friend said
"Come on,she's saying I'm trying to turn people against her,if that was true wouldn't I of done that with you instead rather than him"
Then she went on to say ..
"She's also been slating my dad (I haven't done that either )

Again your best bet here is to say nothing. At all. If someone directly asks you, just said “I don’t know what you are talking about” and look innocent. The only way to “prove” she’s crazy, is to not engage and make yourself look like you are feeding any flames. Don’t talk about it with mutual friends or it will become he said/she said. Just “I don’t know what she’s talking about” is enough.

I have a feeling the damage is done.
Me ringing and texting him trying to prove her to be lying might have made her story more believable.
Your right tho now all I can do is back away.

What an absolute psycho, you're best off out of this. I agree it's a torment not to be able to prove you're nothing like what she's saying but you're never going to get him to believe you over her by the sounds of it.

I hope soon OP you come back and tell us all he's been in touch after finding out what she's really like and apologises to you, I'd still not go back but it would be a kick in the teeth to her, totally what she deserves.

He sounds very needy, to crave her obsessive nature. He must like it OP. You're well rid 🌺

Hinestly, even though you feel wronged here, and I get that, step away. There is no happiness here for you. If he’s that easy to manipulate, and that quick to think bad of you, what do you want him for?? That’s how he is. And he won’t ever be the idea you have of him because that’s not who he is. Walk away. Find someone who deserves you.

He sounds awful. He put a picture about ‘crazy woman’ on Facebook the day you broke up. That tells me everything.

I know it is hard as you just want to defend yourself but leave them to it. They will both do the same with his subsequent girlfriends.

[quote saddff]@differentnameforthis well before me and him spoke she was telling me about the ex "she's crazy" "made his life hell"
Etc etc
Maybe he is the crazy maker [/quote]
Well she would say that wouldn't she? And she will believe that this time it's you... but it's her..

If someone doesn't want to believe you ,you can't force them can you.
If he is so gullible we wouldn't have worked anyway.
I miss him but sure il get over it.
He must not have actually had any feelings or he wouldn't of done that would he ?

if either of this pair of oddballs try to rengage you in their weird, parasexual psychodrama, please completely ignore, block and forget any attempts to set the record straight.

I'm sure i am miles off but they actually sound potentially dangerous to me in the way they have picked someone to completely go for. And they both have chosen to do so. Otherwise, he would have given you chance to explain yourself, knowing that she had lied about you at the very start.

I would put the house on the crazy ex being a similar situation.

I am well aware this is probably going too far and I don't run away easily but I didn't see whether you still work together. I might even consider discreetly looking for another job.