How do I prove she's crazy ? He doesn't believe me?

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I started working at a new job September 2019.
I became friends with a girl and we got on well.
We started going on nights out/weekends away etc.
On a night out she introduced me to one of her guy friends (told me he was a player but encouraged me if I wanted to have fun for the night to go for it )
Anyway me and him got on great,we started texting and had some dates.
She changed on me altogether,stopped texting,stopped wanting to hang out.
On a date he told me she warned him off me saying I slept around (I don't ) that I was clingy (I'm not ) and I was like his ex (who he had a bad relationship with )
She made it difficult and told him if he wanted to remain friends with her he could but she would not socialise with me.
I seen her in a pub and went over and asked her if she was ok,I said I'm sorry if I offended her in some way and could we meet for a cuppa and a chat.
She said yes she would text me.
The next day he rang me really angry "I've spoke to "Alice" why did you threaten her last night ? This is too much like my ex's behaviour " and hung up.
I didn't threaten her.
She told him I ran up debts in my ex's name,I stalked my ex boyfriend and I was bad news.
I tried calling him 3 times no answer
I sent him 2 texts explaining that she was twisting and lying.
He's reply was long saying
"Your a liar,my friend is not a liar,I don't know what game your trying to play,leave me alone or il call the police,your crazy"
Then blocked me
She's totally ruined this
What the hell
How do I prove it ?

Fs *engineered it
Lol

The best thing to say when someone calls you crazy, is “alright then, if you say so.” Then walk away. They’ll always wonder if they doubted you. They’ll always think, if she’s so crazy, why didn’t she go crazy? She hasn’t stalked me like everyone said she would... maybe I was wrong.

And never get drawn back in! Walk away for good!

I'm shocked other people havent noticed it op because its clear as day to me that HE is the one who has caused this whole drama.

His crazy ex (red flag) is a narcissist (red flag that he knows the word - probably because someone has called him one) and you remind her of him of her (aye cause 'bitches be crazy' right mate? Red flag). "You are clearly competing with your friend" (red flag. He means he WANTS you to be competing with your friend). Extreme and aggressive reaction to you just talking to her to try make things right (red flag). Punishing you by blocking you (red flag). The list goes on.

He is nuts.
And he is driving you nuts, deliberately. Google narcissistic triangulation (when a narcissist plays two women off against one another). That's what this is.

Block him fast. He will be back.

Block and move on. I agree with everyone else.

OP, I can see why you’re upset at this bloke having turned on you like this. I think anyone would want to defend themselves.

But truth is that he’s shown himself for what he is, and there’s likely more to it. Nobody just blocks someone on the say-so of someone else...

My guess is that they’re friends with benefits and when he became involved with you he stopped the arrangement with her.

Either way you’re well out of it and I just wouldn’t speak to either of them again.

WALK AWAY.. respond to nothing 🌺

the more you message text call.. the more you simply PROVE her correct... all you are doing is giving credence to her lies... trust me.

WALK AWAY

Seriously how old are they? They sound childish. Don't try to explain yourself any more. It actually all sounds engineered to me. They are both nutters and I guarantee his ex wasn't the crazy one!!

He shagged her once. Didn't go back for more and she expected him to treat you the same. She couldn't handle he actually liked you but played her.

@Sunnydaysstillhere

He shagged her once. Didn't go back for more and she expected him to treat you the same. She couldn't handle he actually liked you but played her.

He clearly didn't like her that much considering he believes someone else over her (if we are to actually believe she is the devious game playing mastermind and not him, that is).

You are so much better off without both of them. After 9 months that he wouldn't hear you out is a massive issue, never mind everything else he said around crazy ex's etc

Honestly, be thankful for the fact you didn't waste any more of your time on this pair

Completely understand your frustration. One thing I cannot bear is being called a liar. I’d be furious.

BUT this is where you rise above it. Walk away with your dignity in tact and be happy without them.

I'd hazard a guess you're not their first victim.

Once ex friend was demoted to friend catagory she became his bff. Now he believes her every word as she hangs on every one of his whilst stroking his ego..

It's shitty because I think it could have been something good

Really ? Block them both and grow the fuck up yourself. Drama llamas the lot of you.

Block both of them and stop obsessing about these people. You are much better off without either of them.

You have dodged a bullet. Move on.

They're obviously crazy and she was trying to use you to get him to see he lives her. MENTAL. Run!!!

They both sound like drama obsessed nut jobs. Block them both and don't look back.

I have tried to contact him since.
I know anything I do now would just make it worse.
Yeah it was 9 months coming up to 10.
Obviously with lockdown we had a few months not seeing each other.
We would text /talk daily during this time.
I hate being called a liar and hate that it came to this.

*have not contacted him since

Bunnymumy Might well be right.

I'm so sorry, OP, what a shit.

Be grateful you found out early on that this man is not a keeper. Your former friend probably has the hots for him and is royally pissed off that you and he appeared to hit it off. Chalk this up to experience and find another friend.

The thing is op, a normal person would necer have accused you of being a liar. Let alone a normal person who cares about you.

He knows his word choice was emotive. He wants you to feel the way you feel right now. Wronged and desperate to prove your innocence/goodness. It feeds his ego to think you are going out of your mind thinking about him.

Guarantee some time down the line he will reappear, pretending to throw you an olive branch. And expecting you to be so grateful that you will just excuse him treating you like shit. It's all a big con op. He wants you too focussed on proving yourself to him to actually realise, he is a crazy shit.

Sure, she might be too of course. But for whatever reason he is enjoying getting in the middle of the drama and stirring the pot. That isnt an innocent bystander. Let alone a good human being.

Phew, you’ve had a lucky escape...