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Is she unreasonable?

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Ifyouarenttheone · 22/09/2020 13:13

Sorry I did post this in aibu but little response so thought id post here.

A friend is currently in court as her ex wants contact with their dc. there was dv and cafcass has said the father is a moderate risk to dc but recommended contact eow and video calls. Mother has reluctantly said fine to overnights as everything has been against her and just wants her ex to stop using court to continue his abuse. Her ex has now said he wants dc every weekend or 3 in 4 as my friend currently doesn't work and dc is under two so not currently at nursery. On top of this so far as applied for 3 prohibted steps orders against my friend in 6 months all of which the judge has thrown out.

Friend is remaining firm and saying it is to be eow as recommended and to avoid further trip to court should her ex not agree to changing to eow once dc is in nursery.

Now I don't think she is being unreasonable I've told her this but she is worried as if they don't agree it'll go to a final hearing so just looking for some unbiased outsider advice. So is she being unreasonable?

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 22/09/2020 13:17

I think the judge will be led by the CAFCASS report - so, EOW. She should stick to her guns, he won't get all the week-ends he's deluded

Ifyouarenttheone · 22/09/2020 17:48

Do you think if my friend were to ask that if either parent intends on leaving dc in the sole care of another individual/s overnight that the other parent be informed?

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