Lost interest

[Browneyesbigbum]

Mr reliable,
Ex wife wanted him to keep a watch on teenage son whilst away with her partner and it spoilt our weekend. We had planned to go away.

I have lost respect for him since ex wife shouts and he jumps. I just stopped caring. Everything changed so quickly. I want to get back to where we were but like a switch bang feelings changed.

Has this sudden change of heart happened to you? Cannot explain feelings just went when he did want she said. No backbone to stand up to her made me question everything

I don't understand how one minute I thought I loved him then bam total no thank you

Why would you want to get back to where you were?

It sounds like it's a good thing you have emotionally disengaged from this man.

I have had the experience of just suddenly feeling "done" with a relationship.

That was an issue with me...she says jump he asked how high!

I liked him a lot. Great fun. Brilliant sex and lots of it. Very high sex drive and not boring or predictable sex

I want to get back to the fun

@category12

I have had the experience of just suddenly feeling "done" with a relationship.

Did you end it or did it get better again

Being a pushover isn't an attractive trait.

How long have you been together?

I ended it, I was glad because I'd been putting up with things I shouldn't have.

Which brings me back to why do you want to go back? If he treats you like second-best.

He's put his kids first. Isn't that what he's supposed to do?

@Pinotgrigio33

That was an issue with me...she says jump he asked how high!

It's not a nice thing is it

@sqirrelfriends

Being a pushover isn't an attractive trait.

How long have you been together?

Indeed, that's why I have lost interest.

14 months

@category12

I ended it, I was glad because I'd been putting up with things I shouldn't have.

Which brings me back to why do you want to go back? If he treats you like second-best.

It only happened the once. He said that he would never do it again., but something changed

Eh?

He's looking after his own son. He's parenting. It's not spineless or bending over backwards; this is what decent parents do.

I get that you're irritated about your spoilt weekend but give the man a break..

So.... You stopped having feelings immediately because of this one incident? Involving his son?

Apparently, this is a common phenomenon, known as getting The Ick. Anything can set off The Ick!

The ick.

It's ok to not want to date someone who already has children.

But you need to tell him and end it.