He's calling me a narcissist but it's him,he's twisting everything.

[idontthinkicare]

My ex and I split.
Through the whole year we were together he messed with my head.
He would show me texts off girls who fancied him and told me not to get jealous..then if I reacted he would say I was "behaving crazy"
He has blew hot and cold with me and blamed it on my "behaviour"
When we weren't "official" but I thought we were ..he took other girls out and told me he slept with them.
He would tell me he didn't want to see me again because of my behaviour,then if I text him he would say I'm "harassing" him.
I've just lost my mum and he's twisted everything.
He said my behaviour has been out of control,I think I own him and I don't.
He said he is sick of my behaviour if he talks to other girls (one screenshot was a girl saying she wanted to fuck him)
He's made me feel like I'm not good enough but twisted it that he hasn't done anything wrong and I'm crazy.
I'm not crazy,he would do things to get a reaction,I would react and he would say "there you go ,going off it again "
He's just sent me a long message saying the only message he wants off me is an apology for my behaviour (I've apologised before even tho i wasn't wrong ) he said he's embarrassed by me and I'm obsessed with him (I'm not I just loved him) he said he wants nothing to do with me and I'm the reason for that.
He said I have a narcissistic personality and I have caused this.

he's not interested in you and never has been so just get on with your life and forget him. it doesn't matter who the narc was/is.

Block him and move on, you know the truth it doesn't matter what others think.

But he is an ex! Block him.

Block and delete. I’ve had a few of these and they ruin your mental health

Stupid things like she's got bigger boobs than you,I kissed her last night.
Then I would get upset and he would say you don't own me.

Why haven’t you blocked and deleted him?

Just get rid, block etc. You were only with him a year, it's not like you were married or had kids together. Doesn't matter who the narcissistic partner is, what matters is you were clearly wrong for each other.

He's a twat.

Don't waste your time analysing everything- it won't make any difference.

He messed with you because he could. Some people are just like that. Nothing changes them.

Save your love for someone who deserves it. This twat isn't one of them.

And ffs block him, immediately.

Yeah I'd just block and delete, you don't need that kind of crazy in your life. There's lots of nice, loving, caring blokes out there, why put up with crazy ass shit like that. It'll really freak him out if you block him, he knows you usually reply and accept his behaviour, take back control and live your life.

He will continue to mess with your head as long as you give him any of your headspace or time. He is not worth getting upset over and do not let this man either become your gateway douchbag to other such men like this one.

I would read about codependency in relationships and see how much if any of this relates to you personally. His needs here are not more important than yours and you are not responsible for him or his actions.

Seriously, you've had a lucky escape. He doesn't care, never will. Block and move on.

Now I'm sat here and I'm analysing everything.
Thinking was it me?
Playing every situation over in my head
Thinking if I didn't say anything when I found out about the other girls.
Or stopped flying off the handle when he showed me screenshots

He’s your ex. Why are you still engaging with him.

He does not love you. He loves himself. He only wants power over you. Even now.

I get the feeling he wants an apology from you in order to take you back. Why are you wanting back with this man. He is not the one for you. Let those other stupid burds do whatever they want with him. None of your business or concern. He is your ex.

Do not reply to his message.
Block him on all social media. Take your power back. Don’t let him abuse you like this. You don’t deserve it. If you went back with him you’d never meet any other guys in the future. There ARE good guys out there. When you are ready.

Nothing good can come from him. You know that. Woman up and press the block key now. You can do it.

This is your one and only life. Why waste it on him. You deserve better.

I have to block him.
When we first met he said to me girls he messes with all go crazy.
He said his ex was a narcissist and she would hit him.
He said she would bite him.
He said he put up with her behaviour for years.
I believed it.
Now I'm thinking she was just another me.

It’s not you. His behaviour would be laughable if it wasn’t so abusive.
He’s a pathetically insecure human trying to bolster his own self-esteem by provoking a ‘jealous’ reaction ... either that or he is just plain evil and is getting a kick out of it. He actually sounds seriously unwell.

I'm not a nasty person.
I've treated him so well even when he's been awful to me.
I've gave that many chances but every time he made it like he was giving me another chance.

He's horrible. Please, go to HGTudor's narc site (easily googled) He is a narcissist himself and he has written some really good posts, and has put some stuff on YouTube too.
It really helps you to understand why you feel so hooked on someone who is so bad for you.

A lot of them say this, to the extent it's a classic narc line. It's proof he's a narc. Ignore. And block him on everything. You've presumably no kids, so you can just do it.

I have to block him. When we first met he said to me girls he messes with all go crazy. He said his ex was a narcissist and she would hit him.

Yep, all this is classic stuff many narcs say, the crazy ex etc. And how he's fucking with your head.

People find it hard to block, but it's really not. Just think of it as a physical action of your fingers. It's done in a minute or so.

When you are a nice person it’s hard to understand why he treated you like he did. The reality is that you will never understand. Don’t waste your time trying.
Block him. Delete all messages. Focus on yourself. Make a list of things that would benefit your life or that make you feel good. Devote your time to doing those instead. Further study, focusing on your health, learning new hobbies, going places you’ve always wanted to go. Practice self care. Do something every day just for you.

He’s a twat and not worthy of occupying any headspace in your life

Stupid question but does he actually think he's done nothing wrong? Or does he know but won't admit it?
Because it's like he can't see anything other than how I've "treated him wrong"

Op do you want him back? What is the point of this? He’s not interested and never has been, why do you keep going there?

@Bluntness100 now no.
I did before.
Today has been too much
I made excuses for him,he's bad past,he was messed up.
He needed help blah blah
But no I don't want him anymore
I don't think I like him never mind love him now

The worst bit is my mum died 3 weeks ago.
He can't just give me a break

I’m sorry about your mum op.

Are you saying you wanted him back yesterday? Just block him, honestly, men who are into you don’t treat you like this. It doesn’t matter if he thinks he’s right or wrong, what matters is he doesn’t give a fuck.

FFS listen to yourself! Read back your posts here.

Some crazy bloke is saying really stupid shit to you and you are taking it seriously! He said stupid shit to you for months before that and you took that seriously too. Give yourself a shake!

Men's words are not automatic truth!

You do not have to defend yourself against utterly ludicrous things said by ludicrous people.

When you tell a man to fuck off you do not need his agreement and permission to flounce off and leave him flapping around like an wet fish.

I've treated him so well even when he's been awful to me. That was exceptionally foolish of you. Stop it.

I guess you got addicted to the high and lows the drama of it all and that's why you are keeping it going now.