Would you invite your partner to a ball if you weren't serious/in love with her?

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Been together for 5 months and he's invited me to his graduation ball. For me, this feels like a very serious and big move. Thoughts?

Yes because that is the sort of event that you do not want to go alone to. Don't read too much into it

Don’t see it as a big move...

He may be serious about you but personally I wouldn't be reading too much into a ball invitation.

No.

It's just a +1. Everyone needs one for a formal party/ball.

Not a big move in the slightest, sorry.

A bigger move will be making plans together for AFTER graduation.

I think it's an event you need a partner for, rather than something to read anything into.

Not a big deal at all. I would never have gone ‘stag’ to something like that if I had a boyfriend (and on occasion took an old mate instead).

I wouldn't read anything into it sorry. Same as if he'd invited you as his +1 to a wedding.

That’s just a standard going on a date? Though it seems unlikely there will be any graduation balls before next summer, so it sounds like a plan to be together for a while.

It's just a party. He doesnt fancy going alone so he's asked you. No big deal.

I wouldn't see it as a serious move, sorry. When I started Uni we had a welcome ball about a month in and I took my boyfriend as my plus one- who I had met in freshers week. We have been together for 13 years now, but still!

When is the ball? Seems an odd thing to be planning at the moment.

I wouldn't think anything of the invite, it's a need to have someone there, not necessarily someone special.

He might be serious, but a ball doesn't prove it one way or the other. Just means he thinks it would be fun to go with you.

I didn't realise graduation ball's were still going ahead...are you in the US or UK?

Either way graduation ball doesn't = you have to be in love with someone to take them..what a silly question.

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I wouldn't read anything into it sorry. Same as if he'd invited you as his +1 to a wedding.

It’s less than a wedding when someone might have photos of you in their home of their special day. A ball isn’t that situation at all. Most graduations photos are just from the ceremony of the person who graduated because that’s what it’s about...

Nope. Marriage/ having children together are big moves. Anything else is just dating.

Fair enough. In my experience when people get invited to a wedding 'and guest' it's very usual to take their current boyfy/girlfriend along and less awkward than going alone.

He can't really go alone can he?
Who else but his current girlfriend would he invite?
I don't think it means he expects you to be together forever.

I'm sure you would have found it more odd if he had invited another lady to the ball.
Whether it means serious or not doesn't matter, you can go to the ball and still make the choice not to get "serious" with him.

Not particularly, it is the logical thing to do to take your current squeeze.

But it does not mean there is no love, enjoy the early days of the relationship without overanalysing it.

Seems fairly normal. He needs a date for the ball and he is currently seeing you so he has asked you. Not really a big thing at all. But nice anyway. Enjoy!

It definitely doesn't seem big or serious. Of course you'd invite your girlfriend of 5 months to that because who else would you invite?

When does he graduate? Seems a bit previous...

Who else would he take? His mum? You're reading far too much into this OP.