Would you invite your partner to a ball if you weren't serious/in love with her?

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Been together for 5 months and he's invited me to his graduation ball. For me, this feels like a very serious and big move. Thoughts?

Aw I was kind of hoping you were Cinderella and this invitation was issued to all the eligible maidens of the land.

Don't read too much into it and have lots of fun! Plus don't rely on Pumpkins and mice for a ride home, very unreliable after midnight.

What do you mean by graduation ball? Is it a big formal event (where you would normally have a +1) or is it more of an informal club night/party after graduation? I've known universities to have both (I'm assuming you don't mean high school graduation).

I guess at 21 (or 18), after only 5 months, it has some significance. Based on my DC, they (and their friends) wouldn't invite someone they were just dating to big university milestone events, only a serious girlfriend who had become part of their close friendship circle, as the events were about celebrating and hanging out with your classmates. So I suppose it might mean he thinks of you as a girlfriend rather than just a date.

Its a social function at the end of the day not a declaration of love and long term commitment.

Wouldn’t be going to any ball just now- covid anyone?

In my day balls were just giant piss ups and in no way the place to make declarations of love. Don’t read too much into this.

How can there be a ball? Is it a zoom one? 😂

It doesn’t mean anything in particular. He is not going to bring his mum is he.

I went to half-a-dozen balls a year at uni (i love them, and had friends in all different colleges). People who were dating someone or who cared about being single often brought +1, others were happy to come in a group of friends. It certainly didn’t “mean” anything. Unless there’s a massive drip feed and you’re called “Cinderella”.

Moving house or having a baby is a big move. Boys can invite you to a ball and shag your best mate the next day - don't pay attention to things like ball invites, pay attention to how he treats you in general.

Is it a six person ball? In which case you are honoured. But it’s still not love.

Maybe it’s an actual ball? I’m imagining a giant American football, 4x4 size, gold plated, gifted by his parents. An intimate family ceremony?

Hi! I don’t think it means much—very normal to want a plus one for something like this. Presume you’ve already met the friends who are there?

at the people claiming nothing less than knocking you up means getting serious...

You're massively overthinking it. He just has a plus one & is expected to bring a date. It means nothing more than that either way

Nah. Could be serious or just a +1. Or to put it another way, if you're not a looker it's much more meaningful, if you are then you might be arm candy

No, you just invite your current girlfriend independently if you´re madly in love or not. You sound a bit teenagy to be honest.

I didn't realise events like this were allowed to go ahead atm?

I think it's quite a bit deal tbh. I worked at a University for many years and graduation is considered a very family orientated affair. It's quite a big deal for him to ask x

Graduation is a family orientated affair, but grad balls aren't! They're a big pissup with your mates

@Wtfdoipick

Yes because that is the sort of event that you do not want to go alone to. Don't read too much into it

That.

It is nice, go and enjoy yourself.

I went to the kind of university that had a lot of balls/formal dinners.
People took their boyfriends/girlfriends/flat mates to them. Just like any other party really.
I wouldn’t read anything in to it. Certainly there is no correlation among my friends with who went to who’s ball and who ended up married!

No youre reading far too much into it. Its definitely the type of event you'd take whoever you were dating too. I certainly wouldn't think it meant anything significant

You're his girlfriend and he's invited you but don't see it as a big deal as that's what a good boyfriend should be doing.

Jesus, I imagine poor op has got the bloody message by now

You’re reading way too much into it

Tickets are sold as pairs and so you need to find someone. The last one I went to, I ‘borrowed’ a friend’s DH (way her suggestion). People take all sorts - friends, friends’ sisters, flatmate’s team-mate’s cousin, girlfriends whether serious or not

(It’s really not like royalty bringing a girlfriend to an occasion where press will be present)

But of course that doesn’t mean he’s not into you - just go and have a lovely time!

I'm sure he's mad about you anyway, op...

No a big deal at all