Would you invite your partner to a ball if you weren't serious/in love with her?

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Been together for 5 months and he's invited me to his graduation ball. For me, this feels like a very serious and big move. Thoughts?

Agree no big deal just the obvious person to invite.

I was thinking the same as everyone else and it's certainly not a marriage proposal, but if he's planning to go to an event with you at the end of the academic year which has only just begun that does sound like he's quite keen.

Is it your partner? If he loves you I assume he may mention it at some point? That’s generally what happens.

I also agree with others, this is something you invite a plus one to, no one wants to go stag to a ball. In itself it’s just he doesn’t wish to go stag to a ball

The question is, why are you making it such a big thing? Why would you consider it a serious and big move. Everyone I know when I graduated, and everyone my daughter just graduated with just invited their current partner, there was no ulterior motive. Serious or not serious. It was irrelevant. It’s just a piss up in nice clothes, with your mates.

You’re acting like it’s akin to getting down on one knee? Are you looking for hidden signs?

It's just a date at a dance, no big deal. You're reading far too much into it. .

I worked at a University for many years and graduation is considered a very family orientated affair

The graduation is. The ball is not, it’s a piss up with your mates.

Why are folks assuming the op is in the uk

I would just invite whoever I'm going out with at the time. It wouldn't necessarily mean I was going to marry them or anything. Hope you have a nice evening. x

You don't mention when graduation is but at least it suggests he thinks you will still be together then - assuming the ball is not next week(!), that in itself is an encouraging sign. Beyond that, try not to read too much into it. He may well be serious about you but this is not decisive.

Ball invitation doesn't mean a thing.

If YOU are serious about him yourself concrete plans e.g. planning his graduation job around you, are what you should be looking out for. Plenty of guys (and women) move on from their uni boyfriends/girlfriends as they just see them for that carefree uni stage of life, and move on to someone else in time when they get to the post graduation "job" stage and meet someone at work or at a hobby etc.

Dont make any kind of commitment to him or let this relationship affect any of your own life/career plans until he shows he's serious about you and not just a "holding" girlfriend.

And also if he loves you, he would tell you that himself so dont assume anything until then

Why are folks assuming the op is in the uk?

Because it's a UK site and the vast majority of users are UK-based. If it's a ball somewhere else in the world where an invitation is a much bigger deal, it would have made sense to mention that in the OP as yes that might change things

People generally bring a date to a Grad Ball, either the person they are dating at the time or a friend.

I wouldn't read anything more into it.

Because it's a UK site and the vast majority of users are UK-based

I think the clue here is in your answer “vast majority” which means not all and no assumptions should be made. There are many people not in the Uk on here,

Agree with others - it’s the sort of event people don’t like to go alone to. I wouldn’t read too much into it

It's pretty standard really where a plus 1 is on the invite, or would you rather he asked someone else?

It’s a plus one. I only vaguely remember the guy who came to mine.

Yes I would OP, because it is has absolutely no correlation to how serious he/she is or whether they are in love with you. It's customary to take someone and if you're dating you are the very obvious choice, it's just a bit of fun and I hope you're able to enjoy it without making it about other things.

If you need to have a conversation with your partner about where it's going and how they feel about you then ask them these things. How long have you been together, how old are you? Perhaps with a bit more info it would be easier to say whether all seems well.

Very serious and big move? Err, nope. You've been dating for 5 months, who else would he invite to what is really nothing more than a fancy party.
I assume you go to other places on dates, do you overthink each and every one?