handholding/ advice re police statement needed please

[Weakmummy]

hi ladies
Yesterday my partner attacked me
He also tried to break through my front door as id had to lock him out because he was so out of control , I have it all on video him trying to break the door down
A friend called 999 by which time he had left
The police have took my statement the vidoes of him breaking in or trying to photos of my injuries they aren't bad and were planning to arrest him today for criminal damage plus common assault
I'm panicking now i didnt want him to get a criminal record loose his job maybe not find another job and his family are nuts so the backlash if he is charged will be huge
I've called the police to say I'm panicking and the officer has gone to speak to his sgt and get back to me
I just dont know what to do and im not strong enough for all the fight ill get back
Anyone been in a similar situation and had a partner charged for assault/ criminal damage?
What happened to them?

Are there any Police officers (current or ex) here on MN that can post or message OP? Any criminal lawyers?
I’ve since name changed, but a few years ago I was badly assaulted and posted here...I hadn’t had a bad experience with the police but I had had some intimidation (Less brazen than that which OP has had) which made me fearful to report what had happened and two ladies here on MN, one a PO and one a previous PO gave me support and advice.

There Is a clear trail of evidence showing what has happened here and that the man who attacked OP and his revolting family are acting in an imitating way....OP was under stress in shock and fear of reprisals which led to her saying she wanted to withdraw her statement...this is not unusual at all..she overcame this and told the police she had changed her mind...she did not formally withdraw her statement by signing the document necessary to do so.

I don’t think OP should make a complaint about the police at this stage because she doesn’t need the additional stress...but I think she has grounds for one tbh.

I don’t want to say for quite how long as it’s outing but I was too fearful to report what happened to me for a very long time after the event which is obviously not ideal for the police and yet my case was treated very seriously by them when I did wake up enough to seek support..I expected to be told off for not reporting sooner or that it was ‘too late’...I wasn’t...because the police have seen ‘victims’ (I know some people don’t like that word but I apply it to myself) in my situation before...afraid to report for whatever reason.

I know all Forces are different but OP made it clear that she’d changed her mind re retracting her statement and I hope she gets the support she needs and deserves...even if she is not at risk of further physical assault (and looking at what he has shown he is capable of, no one knows if he’ll do it again) she is at risk of threatening behaviour from these vile people and pushing things forward through the legal system is the way to go to safeguard from this.

I believe there is a procedure whereby you can challenge an NFA decision - check whether there are details in the letter. Failing that, contact a senior officer and a solicitor specialising in police law, e.g. Hickman and Rose or Irwin Mitchell.

I did have a phone call also from the lady police officer who had told me he was sorry she would tell him to wind his neck in etc ...
I told her im shocked that I managed to withdraw my statement without even the whole statement being read to me ( as my phone died during ) she said reading it to me was just a formality and as I had said the previous day I wanted to withdraw thats what they had gone with i didnt need to sign anything or even hear the whole statement it seems!
I told her I thought they hadn't took it seriously at all and she had made me reluctant to call the police in future if anything happened as whats the point a load of stress for a quick word in his ear to wind his neck in ... which he hasnt!
The male officer who callwd to read me the statement knew i wasn't sure I clearly told him this told him I was being pressured I was crying on the phone to him stood outside my work
He said well let me read it to u and see what you think then agreed to it for me it seems!
I've told the lady officer I hope that that call was recorded as if u dont have to sign surely they need some proof you have agreed and if she pulls the tape it will clearly show how distressed I was
Her reply was u said u wanted to drop the charges what do you expect us to do so I asked in your experience/training have you never heard of anyone being pressured into droppinh charges and she said she is not sure!
She said i could have the case reviewed by an inspector and would send me a letter explaining how
1/2 hr later a letter was through my door saying it already had been reviewsd and classed as nfa due to evidential difficulties? How is 8 clear vidoes of him trying to break through my door taking the lock apart and waving it at the window not evidence????
My heads blown with it all

That’s horrific OP. I think you should call Women’s Aid or the National Domestic Abuse helpline on 0808 2000 247.

Explain what has happened with the Police and ask what you can do. -it sounds like in addition to them opening the case, you have more than grounds to make a complaint about the way you have been treated. Bloody aweful.