How do you find out if someone is married?

[MarjorieProops]

Hi I have been meeting a man I met on online dating for a couple of months. I have my suspicions he is married or with a partner. The following things make me think this:

1. He only meets me once a week. Never at weekend and if so only on Sunday night. To be fair he lives 40 miles away though.
2. I have not been to his house. He says he lives with flat mates and they have issues. He says I could stay when they move out soon.
3. He texts in morning and last thing at night, during day but not a lot as I think he works very hard.

It may just be the way he is, but I would like to find out. I have googled and can't see anything. Sometimes I think he isn't taken and then I think he is. I just want a way of being sure. Sounds silly but any suggestions?

Check his facebook page says he's single. If he "doesn't do social media" he's married/attached.

Pop round to his house

Ring his phone randomly during the evening for a chat, complete no no if its an affair

He says he only does WhatsApp for social media

It's 40 miles away so a bit far just to pop round.

He says he only does WhatsApp for social media

Ah. That old chestnut.

Having seen your update, no need to pop round.

SmugMarried thank you x

@NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1

Check his facebook page says he's single. If he "doesn't do social media" he's married/attached.

Maybe not, several of DH friends either don't do SM or only use it for their hobby groups. Even these days not everyone does SM.

Can you google his name with ‘wedding’ or ‘marriage’ etc just incase it was announced online or anything?

Do you know any of his friends? If so search them on social media maybe you might find pictures of him with a woman. Search his friends friend list for his surname incase Hes on there or his wife is wtx

Try searching births deaths and marriages here www.gov.uk/government/publications/events-recorded-in-england-wales-and-overseas/events-recorded-in-england-and-wales

Google his name with 192
Eg “John brown 192”
Or “John brown Nottingham 192”

That often shows who he resides with or has resided with

Hes told you he’s not on Facebook but have you searched for him on there?

So WhatsApp video call him then.

Just because his friends have issues doesn’t mean you can’t meet somewhere highly visible in his town next time, does it?

It sounds like your instincts are right.

If he "doesn't do social media" he's married/attached

My social media footprint is barely visible and I've never been married. It's possibly an indicator but not a hard and fast rule.

Pretty easy really . Married men rarely will communicate during the evening ( unless wife has an evening job ). Text / message him during the evening . If he does not read your messages which is obvious if you message on WhatsApp, or reads but does not respond I’d say there’s your answer .
Obviously I mean after you’ve tried to message him for several consecutive nights and not getting any response
Even if by chance he’s not married , you’ve been seeing each other a couple of months , if he was really keen I’d have thought he would be making plans to see you more than once a week , and def at some point over the weekends.
Sorry , could be wrong of course , but if it was me I’d be very sus

[quote CandyLeBonBon]Try searching births deaths and marriages here www.gov.uk/government/publications/events-recorded-in-england-wales-and-overseas/events-recorded-in-england-and-wales[/quote]
Pretty sure that needs a year.

Kust a heads up my stbxh used an alias for his many OW. A completely false name so all the searching in the world would throw up nothing. He had a fake career .

He liked his women to typically be 20 to 50 miles away which worked well.for him.for years. I only found out when he started FUCKING some blind bint who got a got obsessed with him 2 miles from our house.

If he "doesn't do social media" he's married/attached

Not necessarily true. I deleted everything about 6 months ago, Facebook etc...and have no intentions of going back. I am married but it certainly wasn't done to hide that fact and it had nothing to do with my decision to delete social media, nor would I go back if me and DH divorced tomorrow.

I'd be wary with everything put together that you've said though OP.

Search his phone number on Facebook - if he has an account it will come up. My friend found out the guy she was seeing was married with kids by doing this. She had suspicions similar to yours OP.

If you don't trust him does your relationship have a future? Even if he's not married will you be querying his future actions? If he's not married and finds out you don't trust him the relationship may be over anyway.

1. He only meets me once a week. Never at weekend and if so only on Sunday night. To be fair he lives 40 miles away though.
He probably stays there Sunday-Friday but his real home will be in a different part of the country

only does WhatsApp for social media

Almost certainly married with children.

@LilyE1234

Search his phone number on Facebook - if he has an account it will come up. My friend found out the guy she was seeing was married with kids by doing this. She had suspicions similar to yours OP.

No it won't unless he's set his added his phone number to his account and set it to public. facebook is invasive but it doesn't magically know know your phone number.

Realistcally OP there is no easy way to find out short of maybe staking out his house. Do you drive, 40 miles isn't that far

Do you have his address.You could go for a drive some morning/evening.

Or ring him at a random time.But if you suspect it,its probably true.