Sorry if this is the wrong place for this, but I felt posting it here would get responses from like-minded people, rather than from those who may not understand where I'm coming from.
Last night my partner sent me a message containing a video of a woman with a contraption forcing her mouth open. Attached to it was a full condom. I didn't watch any further but you can imagine what happened. He was laughing as I watched the first part and saying "just watch it just watch it".
I have been, for the last year I would say, becoming much more vocal about my feminist views. He says he understands. He says he respects women. How can he when he is sending me what is essentially the most horrifying type of porn you can imagine?
He said he is 99% sure it was consensual (fucking bullshit how would he know), and that he just wanted to see my reaction. I feel like this is a massive erosion of my boundaries because he knows how strongly I feel about porn.
I really needed to get this off my chest as I can't stop thinking about it. I'm not sure how to move on from it either. He doesn't understand feminism or respect women, does he? I have to say this is a bit out of character, however recently he has also pushed me into looking at pictures of animals that have been killed by other animals, after I told him I didn't want to see it.
Am I overreacting?
[Title edited by MNHQ to include warning]