Is DP cheating?

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I’ve just found a viagra type drug (googled it), a sachet of it, tucked away on top of the wardrobe.

We’ve been together 7 years and have DC. He often complains about the lack of sex although we do have it around twice a week, sometimes more. He’s never had a problem ‘rising to the occasion’, in fact quite the opposite in that he’s always keen and ready even if taken by surprise...

Could this be a sign he’s cheating?

It could be. But it is most likely a sign he uses it to have sex with you.

There could be loads of reasons he has it. If I’m honest it’s not a lot to go on.

Maybe! I think he would have found a better hiding place though than a shared space if that were the case though. Has he been on any stag dos in the past few years, maybe they were the male equivalent of favours!!! Or a joke gift from a colleague or friend that he kept because it might come in handy one day!

I think I would just ask him ☺️

Isn't it more likely that he's using it when he has sex with you?

Honestly, I'd just ask him about it. It's a perfectly fair thing to ask your life partner about. I'd rather know what medications my partner is taking, just in case they had a medical emergency and weren't able to communicate with the medics.

OP is there anything else to make you suspicious?

Does he seem preoccupied?
Has intimacy waned?
Is he bringing his phone everywhere with him?
Has he starts talking frequently about another woman?
Is he suddenly taking better care of himself?
Is he's constantly texting someone, but won't specify who?

If you aren't seeing any other signs, I'd assume he is using it for sex with you, or bought it as a "just in case I need it" possibility.

Is it an old box?

I’ve googled it and they come in packs of 7, here’s only one. The manufacture date is March 2020....

Have you had sex 6 times in that period? He could have issues he doesn’t feel comfortable telling you. It could have been given by a friend to him as a joke or to try.

So how many times have you had sexual since then?

A about two or three times a week

Hmm, that's a stiff one.

😂

No not from that alone, he might feel he needs it or was just curious to see what happens.
Just be honest and say you found it, see what he says.

Seems likely he's using it with you?

Unless you have other reasons to distrust him/he has form for cheating?

He must be using it with you, ask him! he might be a bit embarrassed though.

He's probably using for sex with you but doesn't want to admit it. Especially if you say keen.
Who initiates most? If him, I think there's your answer

Why would he need viagra with someone else if you say he has no issues with you? Also, Viagra isn’t for getting an erection, it’s for maintaining one. The likelihood is he’s using it with you, you just haven’t noticed.

Not necessarily cheating based on that alone.

I’d maybe do some digging though.

He may be using it with you (not necessarily every time, but sometimes.)

Definitely don't ask him. He'll always that say of course, he is using it with you. Instead start watching that pack daily, you'll have your answer soon. On top of the wardrobe though tells me he uses it with you. Otherwise it would probably be hidden in his car.

When I found a receipt for Viagra it was the first sign I had he was cheating. It took a year from then to find out the truth. I think this is unusual and previous posters are right, you need more evidence.