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Worst Weekend Ever (bloody mobile phones)

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Amanda1 · 18/10/2004 08:26

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Nimme · 20/10/2004 17:57

Amanda, don't apologise. Whinging is great - getting angry is even better. You are doing so well - now enjoy your evening out!

happygolucky · 20/10/2004 18:02

Hi Amanda1

Just read through the posts here and I want to say how sorry I am to hear that you are going through the worst time. I can only echo what others are saying. It will get better.

He may have taken something from you but he has given back your life.

It hurts so bad for a while, but that is all it is, a while. You have the rest of your life ahead of you. It may not seem like it now. I wish I could be there to hug you in person. Let your hair down and love yourself and your children. {{{{{Huggggggs}}}}}

pixiefish · 20/10/2004 18:08

thinking of you... good luck thurs. EAT MORE THAN FLIPPING TOAST. What about a nice Chinese take away.... duck in orange sauce... mmmmmmm come on amanda- eat

beansprout · 20/10/2004 18:09

Amanda - it IS hard to do this and I totally understand that awful feeling of he gets to walk away while you have to deal with all of the consequences of HIS actions and all of the pain. You are doing briliantly well. Part of the process is to have good days and bad days but it is all progress.

I hope your dd is ok too. I hope I am not out of line when I say that while this may be hard for her now, to see her mum as a strong woman who doesn't tolerate being treated badly is a brilliant thing, but maybe not something she will appreciate at this moment in time.

Hope you are ok.

carla · 20/10/2004 18:15

Amanda, just wanted to add, however tempting it is, DON'T reply to that text. You're doing brilliantly and we're all really proud of you. Replying would just fuel the b**ger. XXXXX

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Amanda1 · 21/10/2004 09:40

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spook · 21/10/2004 09:48

Hi honey.Thinking of you. Well done for not responding to him last night. Could quite easily have had a moment of weakness but you didn't. Good girl. I'm thinking of you today. Hope the results are sooner rather than later and good.

Marina · 21/10/2004 09:59

Very best of luck with the results today Amanda, you're being so strong through all of this. No-one things you're "whingeing", you've suffered the worst sort of betrayal.

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Amanda1 · 21/10/2004 17:30

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spook · 21/10/2004 17:43

There is absolutely no point in thinking it's bad news Amanda. But once it's in your head it's in your head-I know! Working is probably a good idea to take your mind off it but make sure you get some "me" time tonight? A nice hot bath? The weathers filthy, and maybe something nice to eat???(doubtful!!)
hang on in there {{{{{{{}}}}}}}}

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Amanda1 · 21/10/2004 17:52

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spook · 21/10/2004 17:59

Do you know what Amanda. I am not an amazing woman atall. We get this shit thrown at us never in a million years believing it could happen to us and we just get through each day as best we know how. I'm not proud of the way my marraige ended nor am I proud at what my boys have been through. I just got up in the morning and did what needed to be done. Every now and again you realise it hurts a little less and every now and again you realise you haven't thought about it for 5 minutes (I'm still at the 5 minute stage!!) But I am here and so will you be. And quicker than me I think. You are doing INCREDIBLY well and are coping far far better than I ever did. I'm away for a week now but will check in with my fellow MNetter Becca to see how you're doing and how the results were. Keep it up sweetie and you'll do just fine.

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Amanda1 · 21/10/2004 18:07

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TurnAgainCat · 21/10/2004 18:09

Amanda1, I had no idea what this thread was about from its title and just read it now. You are so brave and I am so sorry to hear about how hard a time you are having. You should be proud of being smart and tough enough to work it out, though. Part of us wants to deny and not read messages sometimes, or to accept the excuses offered and not investigate. Do you want a good line which I haven't had occasion to use yet? I went to see a one act play last month and the main character tells his mate about how badly he treated his last girlfriend, and he does not really know why, and he then sent her months later a box of chocolates and invited her to his housewarming party (at which the play is taking place). In the play the mate says, "Get any reply?" and he says, "She wrote in all capitals, "NEVER CONTACT ME AGAIN FPIG". And the mate goes, "Wow, she seemed like such a nice girl, I can't even imagine her thinking such a thing let alone saying it. What does it mean, anyway?" The main character says, "I don't know but I think it means I'm a pig and I should f off".

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Amanda1 · 21/10/2004 18:25

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Marina · 22/10/2004 10:10

Amanda, any news from the hospital today? How are you? Did you stock up on those much deserved goodies last night?
TAC, .

wallawallabingbang · 22/10/2004 10:13

Hi Amanda

Just checking in to see how you are today? I know spook is waiting to hear of your results and how you are doing - I have the job of texting her (i used to be beccarollover)

Becca
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Amanda1 · 22/10/2004 11:46

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wallawallabingbang · 22/10/2004 11:47

Oh F**K

Im so sorry Amanda ((((hugs)))) at least it seems to have been caught very early.

Please CAT me if you would like someone to talk to - Spook rang me earlier to find out how you were getting on.

Lots of people care about you and are all here for you

CookieMonster · 22/10/2004 11:56

oh Amanda, I have been following your thread and admiring the way you have dealt with all the shit which has come your way .... and now this
Take comfort from the fact that this has been caught early and is very treatable. You really didn't deserve this ... which hospital are you going to by the way? (I live in Leeds too)
Thinking of you ... CM xx

Frenchgirl · 22/10/2004 12:07

Amanda I'm so sorry. As everyone has said, you have been so incredibly brave and strong through this, you don't deserve this sh*t. Good luck and keep posting.
xxxxx

Marina · 22/10/2004 12:08

Oh, NO. Oh, Amanda. I'm so sorry to hear of your diagnosis. Sounds like it has been caught early, though. We are all thinking of you.

TurnAgainCat · 22/10/2004 12:39

Amanda (((big hug))). It does sound like a really early stage. My Mum's best friend (divorced with two young children) had breast cancer many years ago and much more advanced forms of surgery, however, she has now been clear for years and really is an inspiration to me in various ways. I believe the fact she was already a tough and independent person really contributed towards her recovery and the effectiveness of her treatment. I think that you are that type of person too!

MissusWoman · 22/10/2004 12:40

So sorry to hear this amanda, what an awful shock on top of everything else it does sound like they have caught it at a very early stage, but I'm sure that doesn't minimise the shock you must be feeling. Hugs to you XXX

secur · 22/10/2004 12:40

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