I met my boyfriend, now fiance, 3 and half years ago. I have some brothers living abroad and when they were home on holidays, they were very good to both me and him. They did their best to welcome him and accept him.
The family at home is a different story. My mother and brother, they only ever said hello to him in passing. Not once did they try to get to know him or welcome him into the family or accept him as my partner. I suppose we are not the sit down to a Sunday roast people so that I don't expect that from my mother. My brother was dating a woman around about the same time as I started dating my man, and that would have been good opportunity for some sort of a double date thing or all four of us to meet up. He was too consumed in his girlfriend at the time to think of anyone beyond himself. All these years later, not once has he tried to accept my partner. He vaguely mentioned something a few months ago about meeting up with him maybe for some drinks in the local when all the covid thing is over but that was probably all talk.
Three and half years of a relationship and not once has my family tried to accept him. Its not like he's a drunk or smokes weed like my brother. I suppose if he was a down and out dirty bum he would be more accepted into the family that I have living at home.