Ok, so here it goes. My mother asked me if she could have my 2 and a half year old over night last night. I said yes as she has him one night most weekends. I dropped him off at her house and then went home. Everything was fine. This morning my dad rang, and just so you know, my mum and dad split up about 4 months ago, but they still get on, have a laugh and talk, no animosity at all, and my dad said tht he went round to my aunties house for a frink last nigh. This auntie is my mums sister, and he said that my mother was there, with my son, absolutely pissed. My auntie and uncle have a 6 year old daughter who was there, and their two friends were there with their 6 year old son, and my dad said they were all bladdered and my mum, who cannot drive, ended up sleeping there, so my son had to sleep in a top bunk of a bed, with a 6 year old, in a house that he hasnt been to very much. So, I was livid, rang up my mum, and told her that she was not having my son over to sleep again, and here why; My main problems here are these;
He is two years old and didnt go to bed until 11 oclock - 3 and a half hours later than normal;
he slept on a top bunk as it is a cabin bed with just storage underneath, and the inly way of getting off the bed is a slide! Which i just dont think is suitable for a 2 year old inase he fell off;
If he'd have woken in the night, he wouldnt have known where he was, who was woth him, or where to go;
My mum didnt take his bag with him, so he slept in his clothes, didnt clean his teeth and came to me this morning, filthy;
They went mad at my dad for telling me, so they wernt even goignt o tell me that they were so drunk that she couldnt get home;
I trusted my mother to look after my son for one night, and she didnt. She didnt put him in bed, or look after him, which I feel to be a massive betrayal, as I love my son, and have never had more than two drink whenever I have been with him.
All this I told my mother, but then, my auntie started having a go at me saying that I was over reacting and needed to frow up and shouldnt speak to my mother like that, and then blamed my dad for making my mum look bad! But none of it was untrue, she was too drunk to look after him, and he should never have been left to go to bed so late by his uncle, he should never have slept in his clothes, and she DEFINATELY shouldnt have got so drunk to the point that she couldnt stop. Yes shes stressed because she split with my dad, but she made the decision to leave, and that doesnt excuse it, my parents have just split up, my dads the best person you could ever meet, but massively depressed, but i dont get paraletic all the time. Am i wrong to say she cannot have my son anymore? I also told her I didnt want to see her, I was so mad, I jsut burst inti tears. Im 3 months pg, I dont need such an irresponsible family. Am i wrong to react that way about my mum and auntie?