Whats The Worst Way You've Been Dumped

[IncandescentSilver]

I've been thinking my recent dumping is just about one of the worst out there (cheated on during lockdown when we couldn't see each other, 3 minute phone call to tell me "Sorry but I'm seeing someone else now", 2 months later I had to ask for my stuff back and he refused to meet up but dumped it on my doorstep when he knew I'd be out, and today, 2 1/2 months later, has blocked me on WhatsApp, which I hardly ever use, even though I haven't contacted him since asking for my stuff back weeks ago - it seems to be in response to my changing my profile photo on there to a very inoffensive head and shoulders shot, suitable for work contacts.

It was actually so bad its cheering me up to process it by thinking about it - his behaviour seems so at odds to what type of person I thought he was, its almost funny, in a black comedy sort of way.

I was engaged to someone in the 80’s. Long distance relationship, he London, I North West. We had been together 3 years and saw each other every weekend and holidays. Wedding booked in for the summer. As others have said, no mobiles or email them so it was phone calls to each to each other from home for me and phone box from him.

Then nothing.....no calls, nothing. I was frantic and so was his mum as she didn’t know why he had just disappeared. His work said he had resigned and left them.

Two weeks later and still both out of our minds with worry, we both received an air mail letter. He had pissed off to Australia for a year to travel! He basically dumped me and called off our wedding by air mail!

I never saw or heard from him again after that.

Had an argument over the telephone, then partner was in the pub, It was my birthday.
Had a row, ex thought they had hung up, hadn't, and I heard 'I don't even love her anymore'

We broke up that night. 2 weeks before Xmas too

Some of these are awful. Unfortunately I think @Spied “wins”

Dumped by text on the day we were meant to cross paths at the airport. I was on my way back from a trip and he was going on a trip at the same airport and I was at arrivals, he was at departures. I called him, he didn't pick up. Text him didn't answer for an hour. I had a horrible feeling in my gut as why my ex wouldn't want to see me as this meet-up was planned and talked about the night before. I took the train and headed home and he finally replied saying he had gone through security. I told him thanks for letting me know where I stood in his life and then he dumped me by text. Awful man.

@Eckhart Nothing unclean about telling them to fuck off if they've treated you awfully or are being disrespectful.

The ones about live in partners / husbands just disappearing are just awful ! Didn’t you think they had been murdered ? Or hit by a car and lying in a ditch somewhere ? Or unconscious in hospital ?

I can't compete with these stories but here is mine anyway for some light relief.

Tried to have grown up sophisticated dinner party in my student flat and my boyfriend dumped me between main course and dessert. Ruined my hostess moment.

He was Catholic and had refused to sleep with me in accordance with his beliefs (and made me feel like a nympho for wanting to have sex) but later on in the year shagged my flat mate. Loudly.

I don't care, he was a weed with spots on his bum anyway.

To this day I don't know whether he got tired of me or something happened to him in action!

Fk he could have become a castaway on a remote island and might turn up any day like that Tom hanks character!

Or he could be married with two kids in Essex.

My ex-husband dumped me by text.

Not a text to me, mind. A text to my friend who I worked with who then had to come over and break the news to me.

Reminiscent of the PP whose boyfriend went off to buy loo roll and never came back...

Years ago, boyfriend of about a year took my car for a service (he was in the trade). He was supposed to drop it off the next day but didn’t. Calls and texts unanswered. Finally after two days texted and emailed him to tell him that I’d be calling the police if I didn’t hear from him by midday the following day.

Got sheepish email telling me that he’d been ‘moping’ for the last few days because he couldn’t work out how to split up with me, plus, by the way, he had three children that he hadn’t told me about!

Lucky escape! I made him bring the car back then waved him off with a sigh of relief.

I once got dumped after a four year serious relationship, living with him, step mum to his son, etc etc by email whilst he was on deployment with the armed forces. Turns out he'd found someone else on deployment. We were planning on TTC when he got home, he'd talked about buying my engagement ring whilst away with his peers (OW included). We were so happy, he blamed cabin fever when he got back. Shown me his true character and what he was capable of though!

I got dumped celebrating our new year, we lived together.. he's finished nights, dinner in the slow cooker house all clean, came down stairs and he had a face like a slapped arse.. he'd been very moody anyway and a sarcastic text the night before made me think it was on the cards.

The audacity was he thought he could stay in my house until he was sorted, safe to say he was told to leave and his belongings returned in black bags to his mums the next night!

So after 2 years of telling me he wanted the future I do he didn't actually ever want it, but in that time I helped get him fianancely stable and support him through some gambling problems.. not to mentions holidays and the rest!

Also met somebody else at work! Shock! That's 3/3 last relationships I've been cheated on!

Think I have mug on my head

I wasn't told I was being dumped. I'd just had his baby, his female "friend" started coming round every week, they'd flirt in front of me, and then I was just faded out... so I left and they became official soon after. 🤷‍♀️

My ex walked out when our youngest was 6 weeks old over moving a travel cot? Yes that's how pathetic he was and still is, clearly could not own up to being a spineless abusive lying wanker but hey ho we are well shot of him?

@Eckhart It was a bizarre situation. When he disappeared I went back to my parents who had a big debt as they paid for the wedding. I felt so guilty. I then moved back to London living the life of a single girl except legally I wasn't. Had to get a private detective to find him to serve divorce papers. Googling his name he appears to be in Australia.

Just moved in with an ex. Went on a romantic break to mid Wales. Day 2 in the car he drives me to the train station (which was effectively a bench and a lamppost) and tells me he doesn’t think it’s going to work and I should head back to my parents. Then I should go and get my stuff out the flat and leave the keys. Apparently, it would be too difficult for him to drive me as he still loved me, but knew it would not work. He needed to stay on the break to clear his head. I was so shocked I got out. He drove off. He didn’t wait to check the train times etc. I sat for 90 mins on that train station till a train came.

Not me but many years ago a friend had breast cancer , had a partial mastectomy and was having chemotherapy. One day her DH didn’t arrive to collect her from the hospital so she phoned her Mum who was looking after her DC.
Her Mum took her and the DC home to an empty house , note on kitchen table ( pre mobile phones ) from her DH saying he couldn’t be married to someone who was deformed .
The marriage had been a bit rocky and he was a twat but I don’t think anyone expected that .

I was dumped by email. So far, so boring. But this was in the early 90s and, as a PhD student I was one of the very few people who had email (he worked for the university so ditto).
None of us even had mobile phones obviously so this was basically the coldest way he could do it.
Though a lot of students used to use internal mail to send their friends messages (and cake) so I suppose that would have been harsh too.

Friends for 10+ years, dating for nearly a year.
I was stressed and he said we should go on holiday together. So he sent me 3 hotels to choose from, I chose and then didn't hear from him again for 6 months!

In the meantime he told our entire friendship group, including girls I'd been at high school with, that I was obsessed with him for no reason and that HIS NEW GIRLFRIEND (???) was finding it too much. We'd been keeping our relationship quiet (at my request) from our friends until we'd been together a while as they tended to get a little over involved when relationships started within our friendship group.

Anyway, no one believed me when I said that we'd been dating so I wasn't crazy to be upset except for two girls and despite one of them having known that we were dating since the beginning! I lost an entire group of 15+ friends in the fall out... but a few years down the line I can finally say WORTH IT. They were shitty friends anyway!

After 6 months he sent me a "sorry you feel that way" message out of the blue on Facebook (I'd stopped messaging him after a week of ghosting) - so the Bastard knew he was in the wrong but never actually apologised for his behaviour

@Oldbutstillgotit

I thought some of these stories were bad but that takes the biscuit 🤭

I hope your friend is well and happy now.

I had been seeing my dc dad for almost a year when I found out I was pregnant . He was really well it seemed like it ; he started making plans to get married so we could live together ( he was serving and got posted abroad after we had been together for a few months)and we talked about how we were going raise our children, where we would live when we retire.

The day I went to see the midwife for my first appointment, I got a message as I was sat in the waiting room to say he was not happy and couldn't do this anymore. He couldn't be there as he was abroad serving . That evening , he was plastering pictures of him and his new gf on sc as it was her birthday. To say I was devastated doesn't even come close .This was 8 years ago , he pays maintenance but refuses to meet our dc .

I was dumped once by a 'man' who dumped me with a character assassination. I am a people pleaser. I had no boundaries. It was absolutely devastating to me. The ONE thing I thought I had was that I was a good person. I was a good person but I had a really low self-self esteem. After he dumped me I lost weight, got a tan, looked good but I ended up in a relationship with an abusive man who just managed me for 7 years. This dumping was 20 years ago but it had a devastating effect on the course of my life. I know that if I'd had a better self-esteem it would never have happened, but dumping somebody who had only ever tried to please you with a damning character assassination strikes me now as a particularly cruel and effective way to destroy somebody. I sometimes wonder if that man ever regretted the character assassination he so blithely doled out. We had mutual friends too. The experience just destroyed me.

Ex left a note on the kitchen table. Left while I was at work.

@ ALLIS0N sadly not . She tried so hard to be positive and cheerful but was completely devastated especially as it turned out there was an OW.
At my friend’s funeral he tried to play the grieving widower but no one believed it.

@IncandescentSilver in the end, it's better that they reveal the low depths they will sink to ending a relationship. The speed at which you're forced to confront their poor character is sickening, but in the long run, you're better off because you end up less conflicted.