Should dh and I have the pin code to each other's phone?

[bluebellll]

I don't have a reason to believe my husband would do anything untrustworthy but for some reason it's bugging me that I don't know the pin on his phone. I wouldn't mind if he had mine. I would like to hear your opinions?

Thanks

[BlueJag]

We do have each other's pins. We never look at anything but at times we borrow each other's phone.

[Hedgehog44]

Don't you want your own privacy?

[teenagetantrums]

We know each other's code. I would think it's a bit werid if my DP wouldn't let me use their phone. I don't snoop through txt and messages but if her phone is nearest and l need looksomething up l just use it

[namechange496937]

Me and DH have the same pin and finger prints as others. It just happened didn't think of it either way. As others have said not to snoop just for ease of googling or just checking things if his phone is closer to hand and vice versa. I think if he suddenly became very private it would look suspicious.
It's a hard one on the one hand if they have nothing to hide I don't see an issue. But also someone insisting on having your pin codes could be abit controlling.

[ekidmxcl]

Hedgehog, there is privacy because nobody is going through the phones, despite having the ability.

[ifiwasascent]

Me and my husband have the same codes- was just coincidence that we used the same ones.

[Scautish]

We know each other’s and sometimes use it eg if one is driving and need to send message. But I have never and would never look at his phone without his permission and I’m certain that he would be the same.

[HeddaGarbled]

No. Everyone’s entitled to some privacy. I have conversations with friends and family that those people are not expecting anyone else to read plus there are sometimes order confirmations for gifts or other surprises, or an internet search that I’d rather keep private until I’m ready to discuss e.g. a health concern. Wanting some privacy isn’t always hiding nefarious activity. If you’ve got work conversations on there, you should definitely be taking steps to prevent unauthorised access.

[BK187]

Ease of googling?

How far away is your own phone when this is happening.

[buzz91]

My DH has my fingerprint registered on his phone and he knows my pin - we mainly just access each other’s phones so we can deal with dc watching things and pressing the wrong buttons. In all fairness though his phone confuses me and I have no idea how to navigate it

[DrStrangesMagicDressingGown]

@BK187

Ease of googling?

How far away is your own phone when this is happening.

Charging in another room, or nearby but being used to play a video.

[starfishmummy]

I don't know dh's. He only has a work issued phone anyway and as he deals with highly confidential mattersbI ż

I have told him my pin number but I doubt he remembers it!

[johnd2]

Just say i "i feel weird that we don't know each other pins, how do you feel?"

[ArcticSky]

We know each other's codes (have needed to swap phones in the past) but have not needed to unlock his phone since we've had new ones. I'd find it strange if he didn't want to tell me what his code was. I'd never unlock without asking and he knows that.

[RaisinGhost]

I don't think you need to know nor can you ask without sounding weird.

As you own experience shows, knowing someone's pin doesn't mean you can look at their phone anyway.

[madcatladyforever]

No, its an invasion of privacy, either trust him or don't and dont give him yours.

[CoronaBollox]

No we could probably guess each others but it has ever came up in convo. I dont remember the last time I've needed to use someone else's phone to take a picture/make a call. If I did I would just ask DP to do it anyway.

[Dogstar78]

We know each others PINs. Well I know his because I never find my phone. He has a crap memory and can't remember Mone but have no issues unlocking it so he can quickly search for something. No big deal. If he was demanding my PIN and wanting to look on my phone we'd have a problem. I only look at houses and dogs I am never going to own on phone.

[AveEldon]

no, if necessary just unlock it with the fingerprint while they are sleeping

[itsamadmadworld]

I know my boyfriends cos he unlocked it in front of me once, and he knows mine cos I've asked him to look at my messages before, but neither of us go on each other's phones. I think the difference is we're not cagey, we don't hide the screen if we're on it or take it everywhere we go even if it would be easier to leave it. We have our privacy because we know were not gonna snoop but also know if there was a need to go on there we could. Whereas despite you knowing the code in the past he's never acted like he's actually comfortable with you going on his phone for whatever reason. So I don't think you need to know the code, but I also think he's not given you enough reason to trust him regarding what he's doing on there.

[MrsPerfect12]

We have each other Pins and the kids. We all can locate each other on our phones also. I'd be more worried if it was problem. My family members are welcome to use my phone at anytime and I theirs although my DD (teen) Never has hers out her hand or battery left.

[bouncydog]

We use each other’s phones and iPads. I pickup his calls if he’s in the shower/gardening. Full access normal in our household.

[bluebellll]

I just think it's shady that before we got our new phones he never left his phone everywhere and now he does because he knows I don't have access to it. I'm going to not mention to him about not knowing each other's pins. I guess if he's fine with not needing to know mine then I should be too. Thanks anyway for all your thoughts.

[GinWithASplashOfTonic]

No not necessary people are entitled to their privacy. And sometimes if you find information like that out it's harder to resist snooping somehow

[hapagirl]

DH and I have each other’s. But it’s for convenience, like his phone will be in the room so I’ll use it to look something up because I can’t be arsed to go look for my phone. Neither of us has used it to snoop.