Boyfriend corrects my pronunciation

[Onetoomanytimes]

This has happened quite a few times over the course of our two year relationship, most recently this evening. I wouldn’t say I’m below average intelligence, equally not the sharpest tool by any means

Each time he had corrected me I’ve brushed it off and thought ‘oh well at least I know for future’. Tonight it hit a nerve for some reason. I mispronounced a word during dinner, a fairly commonly used word, fair enough I said it wrong. However he understood what I had said, so it didn’t affect the conversation in any way, but he repeated the word back to me correctly afterwards which made me lose my train of thought for the conversation, which inwardly pissed me off. I didn’t say anything as we were out and I wanted to enjoy my meal but I was noticeably quieter afterwards.

It doesn’t happen often, maybe once every couple of months or so. It is quite possible that I’m being over sensitive about it, as I’m sure he doesn’t mean it maliciously and just wants me to not sound like an idiot.

I kind of wish I could think of something quick-witted to say back to him when he does this but I tend to feel too defensive.

My new tie! I like that one.

I also think there’s a difference between mispronunciations due to having read the word, but not necessarily heard it - segue/segway, or minutiae/mynewtie, and Pacific. Or hospickle. Or skellington.

I’d rather be corrected. I’m not too proud and don’t take myself so seriously.

How do we say 'segue' then??

Someone mentioned 'almond'. I had this last night with my son. He laughed at me saying 'armond'. I laughed at him saying 'al-mond'. I will NOT pronounce it like that!

How about' medicine'? Many people say 'medsin. My mum says the doctors at her old work pronounced it like that and 'they should know'!! I want to say 'meddisin'.

The one that gets me is people who say 'mischeevyous'. Where does that extra 'i' syllable come from? Surely they are wrong.

Segway is a trademarked product on wheels and segue, though pronounced the same, means the uninterrupted transition from one topic or piece of music to another.

I say armond for almond. I say med-I-cine and mischievous not mischiev ey ous.

Isn’t minutiae my-new-shy ?

Noooooo, it used to be my-new-shy it’s now my-new-tie!!

Is it? Since when?

I've never ever heard anyone say "That'll learn you", even from people who's first language isn't English confused
It definitely is a phrase. The joke being that it is itself incorrect but used to provide a lesson. I say it quite a lot.

Mmmm... well you could look at it as he is trying to correct you because your mispronunciations make you sound uneducated? Maybe he is embarrassed for you and doesn't want other people to think you're thick? Maybe he wants other people to think as much of you as he does?

So basically you need to understand why he's doing it not that he is doing it.

His reasons may be to help you. How would you feel if you went through an evening with new people mispronouncing a common word several times, and later found out you were. I would personally cringe with embarrassment at my mistake and would hope my DP would have helped me earlier.

I still toe curl at pronouncing hyacinth hick-a-thean. I was only 11 though.

@Benjispruce2 since @SixesAndEights posted upthread

Lol thanks @dun1urkin

@dun1urkin

Noooooo, it used to be my-new-shy it’s now my-new-tie!!

What?! It’s my new shay Isn’t it?

I had a friend that referred to his favourite bread as borjay. I though it was a fancy loaf I’d not heard of until he brought one in to work for lunch. It was a baguette.

No, it's min- u- tie! Well it is where I'm from. AND it's advert-is-ment not advert -eyes- ment!

It's my-nu-sha.

Ok so there seems to be several correct pronunciations. The first one is mi new shee eye which is what my mother says. I haven’t got round to figuring out the others yet.

The second one is my new she eye

None of them seem to end in “tie” though @Puffalicious

This thread is in relationships and it's about a relationship. Can we stop with the correct pronunciation comments and actually concentrate on OPs relationship?

@fuckingcovid

This thread is in relationships and it's about a relationship. Can we stop with the correct pronunciation comments and actually concentrate on OPs relationship?

Maybe, if they ever come back.

I do it to my DH all the time and he hates it, I am most riled up with how he puts the intonation in the wrong part of a word a lot. But I can't let it go without correcting. On the other hand, I sometimes get words wrong too, and much more often, place names and road names and when he corrects me I don't get cross, more 'Are you sure?! You are KIDDING. Can't believe I've been saying it wrong forever' and I laugh at myself but am glad to be corrected. I guess it's different personality types. How does he react to you correcting him?

@totallyyesno Epitoam ...WHAT?! My mind is blown. I've also been saying my-new-tay. I don't know how I can live with myself.

'That'll learn you' is definitely a well used expression where I live, although I don't think I ever say it myself. Maybe it's regional.

@Onetoomanytimes
Listen to what he says and note his mistakes, he’s sure to make some. Start mentioning his errors loudly and frequently.

He will soon stop correcting you.

"Nobody likes a smart arse, Boyfriend."

Sad smile.

"Seriously. Nobody does."

Or stab him in the eyeball with your fork. It's your call.

"I kind of wish I could think of something quick-witted to say back to him when he does this but I tend to feel too defensive."
I wouldn't try to be witty, I'd try to get to the bottom of why he did it.

'Does it make you feel all superior to correct me in such a patronising manner?'

Although I was quite taken with fmlfmlfmlfm's "Am I pronouncing shut the f up correctly?"