I had one very similar to this. He said 'Oh WHEN are we going to have sex.' I was actually slightly assertive and said 'when I want to, and not before.' He said 'I should hope so.'
So, not only was I expected to have sex when he wanted regardless of whether I wanted it or not, I was also expected to be in the mood whenever he wanted.
After this exchange he lay and had a wank next to me.
Then he left, after telling our friend I was 'a tease.' He was an older guy but even so, how dated is that comment?
Anything that makes you feel pressured to have sex is sexual coercion. The storming around and the wanking, the comments.
Weird and passive aggressive. I suppose it could be seen as coercive
It is coercive.
He'd grab and paw me. Tell me my body was "half his anyway". Be angry and aggressive for long periods of time. Tell me we weren't meeting the national average of how many times! Call me a nun and frigid and tell me to see a sex therapist
The comments and pointed display of moods are coercion. The pawing on top of it is also sexual assault. That doesn't mean OP's experience isn't sexual coercion. It is.
Ironically the man I'm referring to above referred to prostitution as "paid rape" .. which I agree with.
Some men pretend to be 'woke' to try and impress women/ get away with things by having a front of being that way.
I've had to go into therapy and one incident is particularly disturbing to me. I've mentioned it on here before but I won't stop mentioning it when it's relevant, it was so awful. 
I was trying to talk to him about something deep but cheerful, as a friend (which we supposedly were- friends with benefits.) I finish a sentence and he quickly went 'that's good now s my c.'
It was so rude- and yet I did it, when I didn't want to at all, I was wanting to chat. What profoundly disturbs me is that I did it, even though he'd been so disrespectful. It was like the nature of the relationship was such that he had complete control over my actions. I think it can be hard to get across to people how awful it is. It literally makes me sick. Thinking about it, I suppose because it was sexual assault. I didn't want to do the thing at all, and he could talk to me that way and I didn't tell him to fuck off, because I was so scared off losing the 'friendship.' He had manipulated me into such a state of lack of agency that I did that to someone who had spoken to me that way.
It's just dawned on me that him doing that probably means he knew I would do it, too. If he thought it would lead to any other outcome, he probably wouldn't have said it. 
Anyway, sorry I whittered on in your thread @GilbertMarkham . It won't happen again. I suppose part of what I'm saying is that this pressure etc and our responses to it can be very damaging.
How do you feel after realizing this?
Another ex I recently realized was abusive in a lot of ways. Realizing it actually made me feel better, as it kind of made sense of how difficult the breakup was, because that was when he did most of the verbal/emotional abuse. Before, I didn't know why it effected me so much.