If you were completely alone in life, what would get you out of bed in the mornings?

[LostConfusion]

If you had no family, children or friends in your life what would be the thing that kept you going, made you want to get up in the morning etc?

I think in addition to my curiosity about what drives other people (other than family/friends etc), I'm looking for a bit of inspiration.

I don't know if it'll inspire you but.. my thing is being outdoors. So for my inspiration I'd pick a high place, go there and hike to the peak to take in the views. Fresh air, exercise and somewhere with huge views puts things into perspective for me.

I went through a very bad patch about 25 years ago.

What kept me going were my 3 cats. They needed me.

Knowing from past experience of bad depression that doing something other than lying in bed can be looked on as an achievement of sorts even if it feels like going through the motions.

A pet or several.

I would empower myself by acknowledging my part in the decision to choose where I am now and the knowledge that I choose who I place priority places in my life from now on. (In other words, if they don’t come close to leaving me as emotionally connected as the pet, forget it.)

A sense of satisfaction.

I write in a small notebook every night, listing what I've accomplished that day or what jobs I've done. It gives me immense satisfaction to feel I've achieved something. I find it very hard on days I've not done anything. I can't bear a "duvet day" or one where I've just laid on the sofa watching tv. I feel really low.

my cat

mind you, once I've fed him and made my tea we go back to bed

It used to be my cat, but he died in the 3rd week of lockdown. So I have absolutely no reason to get up now, and one day I stayed in bed till 3pm. I get up now when I'm hungry enough to. Life feels utterly pointless right now tbh...

I find it significantly harder to get up on the mornings when there is no bacon in the house. Make of that what you will.

Food, needing a wee and sunshine. Would want to go for a walk.

As cheesy as it sounds, life and being alive gets me up and makes me go find joy all day throughout the day! You only get one life, and it’s your choice if you want it to be a great one! 😊

The dog

Sitting on the deck with a coffee listening to the birds as the sun comes up-going for an early beach walk..gym..never had a problem getting out of bed and it was just me on my lonesome for a number of years(no parents /partner or friends& in a new country) before i eventually had dc.

For me, the blind optimism that the next day WILL be better

Fuckingcovid it's not that easy. It's not nice when people post that it is. Just what's needed, to be told it's all your fault

I don't believe someone would have no friends or the ability to make them? Surely you would try?

Not everyone wants friends or enjoys social interaction.

My cats and sunshine.

Do really struggle even with people around me in winter or when the sky is grey

It is tough when you are living it. There is plenty to get out of bed for, life swings in roundabouts it will always change direction use this time to enjoy the space put yourself out there where possible give yourself a 6 month challenge to mix up a few hobbies.

Beloved pet. So sorry Destinysdaughter Do you think you might get another pet in the fullness of time? I hope you do. I finally got my boy last year after a lifetime of wanting/hoping and he has changed my life.

Needing the loo.
Needing to work so I can pay for the roof over my head.
Because I know if I don't there's the potential of ending up in a very dark place. And my will needs updating.

My pets and work.

I struggle with this a lot. I’ve been divorced for over ten years and no one is interested in me romantically, nor ever will be (not a fortune teller, just find cold realism is a lot less painful than hope and broken hearts). My kids are grown and don’t really need me. Increasingly I feel there’s no point to me, no point in a life I’m not sharing.

Right now I get out of bed because I don’t know what else to do. Life of quiet desperation and all.

@destinysdaughter so sorry about your cat. It’s very hard when they die. Do you think you’ll get another?

I live alone, no job, no children, an elderly father, no siblings, not many local friends - I get up because I want to get up and enjoy life. I could probably stay in bed all day with my cats but how boring would that be? I don't need a person to get out of bed for other than myself.

Well said @Mondayblues33

Knowing that this day is a gift and I am free to do whatever I want in my life. And a cat if I had one!