If you were completely alone in life, what would get you out of bed in the mornings?

[LostConfusion]

If you had no family, children or friends in your life what would be the thing that kept you going, made you want to get up in the morning etc?

Those saying their bladders/the loo

@LostConfusion

If you had no family, children or friends in your life what would be the thing that kept you going, made you want to get up in the morning etc?

Bit of a weird question. Your assumption is that people can be happy only with external validation/dependents.

I get up in the mornings because of:

1. Coffee
2. Bladder
3. The boundless appreciation generated from 30 minutes loafing in bed with a coffee, empty bladder and reading half a dozen MN threads where women describe dreadful lives as unappreciated housekeepers to dickhead husbands and self-centred children.

Trust me life alone can be pretty good.

Pets, my business, hobbies :)

But although I love living alone, people make life magical. In small doses

My dog
A great breakfast
Work/hobby

Pokemon Go (and breakfast /coffee obviously.)

I'd never be completely free of friends because I'd have acquaintances through Pokemon and Facebook. That's not far off my life now really. I've gone off people after in the last year. It's peaceful and I'm safe from bollocks.

I'm also creative occasionally, make memes and write stuff. And I journal and have therapy and a Zoom course on recovery from abusive relationships, and will finish the Freedom Programme when they meet again. I'm quite happy.

I do have a best friend though who I've known over half my life, and see a few times a week.

I’m asking myself this very question with increasing frequency.

@LoganberryOakley2

It would have to be work. Even if it's voluntary, I need structure. Otherwise I would sleep, daydream and possibly mumsnet my way through life turning slowly into a moody, judgemental old bat who thought I knew the answer to everything. I've not been working very much lately and its a struggle to stay motivated. I think I would end up depressed without it.

I like rotas and schedules because I get the work done and then I enjoy the time after. Even when I'm retired I will do something similar.

This made me laugh! I am very much like this, too.

Waltzingbetty I'm not assuming honestly, just asking if you took those other considerations I mentioned out, what other things people take joy out of in life. The reasons they have that would propel them into a day, looking forward to whatever it was.

I know loads of people have happy, fulfilled lives living on their own as much as people can when they have a family/group of friends around them. I was just curious what drives the folk like me who maybe don't have that.

To answer my own question I have a pet that requires care, who I love very much and who gets me out of my pit.

I think what maybe I was trying to ask is what makes you feel happy fulfilled? IDK

Cats

Arghh, I didn't actually answer your question.

What gets me out of bed in the morning is that knowledge that if I don't live today for myself, no one else is going to live it for me.

Fair enough. Then I'd say that not being caught up on the hamster wheel of 'family life' gives you time to appreciate and enjoy many small moments: lovely breakfasts, fulfilling work, interesting hobbies, personal challenges, pets.
Finding joy in small moments is lovely

Breakfast and a cuppa!

The need to earn money so I could sleep in a bed.

Shreddies

Coffee, Marmite on toast and Piers & Susana 😂

Health and Happiness to be able to walk over the park and maybe have a little dog 🐶

I was here and it was work. That's not a bad thing to get up for.

I don't believe someone would have no friends or the ability to make them? Surely you would try?
Pets
Garden
Home
Hobbies
Exercise
Job
Entertainment
Creativity
Volunteering

fuckingcovid Yes sorry, I'm not saying that just asking if hypothetically all that wasn't there.

Thanks for your answers though I'm finding this quite interesting to know where else others take their joy.

Each day is a blank canvas- you can choose how to paint it!! 😍💐

My job, my cats, my enjoyment of nature

I don't believe someone would have no friends or the ability to make them? Surely you would try?

I don't have any friends. I used to, but they dropped off over the years. Now I have my daughter and that's all. It doesn't bother me. People are little more than annoyance really.

If I didn't have my daughter, I'd not have a bed, I'd have an RV and be travelling the country alone, staying in a place for a couple days and moving on to the next.

FWIW monkey I am currently "proper" friendless at the moment too. I have acquaintances but no one to have proper chats/meet ups with.

I am not beyond the ability to make more of course, at the moment though I am struggling with the loss of friends amongst some other stuff pre and during lockdown. I am trying to take some time to try and feel a bit better about life and I'll go out and make more (hopefully) at some point because I like to have people I can share stuff with and enjoy life together.

Until then my pet is what is kind of keeping me going right now.

I think in addition to my curiosity about what drives other people (other than family/friends etc), I'm looking for a bit of inspiration.

Chasing whatever dream I have going at the moment e.g. writing, up cycling furniture, art, DIY, changing the world in some way I haven’t quite figured out yet! Having a long term goal or dream is great because you have to do a little bit every day.
For inspiration read Elizabeth Gilbert ‘Big Magic’ it’s great.

Therapy, volunteering, online friends I do not know in real life, my weughtloss coach, walking, shopping, samaritans I guess lol