Anyone else hate cuddling in bed?

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I can't stand being touched when we are trying to sleep. In fact if it were up to me I'd probably have separate beds (we don't have the space).

Does this sound bad? I still love DH and I enjoy a cuddle in the evening and stuff when we aren't sleeping. But as soon as I want to go to sleep I just want my own space. He says sometimes that he'll try and put his arm round me and I push him away when I'm half asleep.

I am like that..don't touch me. Get your bum off me. Your foot touched mine. And don't face me.

I don’t want to be breathed on but I am happy to fall asleep being spooned. Unless it’s really hot

@Seeleyboo

I am like that..don't touch me. Get your bum off me. Your foot touched mine. And don't face me.

I am like this. I hate it when he turns and faces me. I will often turn the other way until he turns round again.

I feel bad sometimes but like I say it's nothing to do with not loving him I just hate it. And like you, it's anything. I don't want your leg, arm, foot, hand, bum, breath or anything touching me.

My husband and I are both kind of like this! Our routine is when we get into bed we have “pillow talk” time with a bit of cuddling but it’s strictly only while we’re both wide awake. After a while we say goodnight and both turn away from each other and there’s no more interaction or touching! 😂 I couldn’t fall asleep cuddling, nor could he! It gets far too hot, it’s not comfy and we both just generally want our own space! I’ll browse Mumsnet or Reddit for a bit while he reads nerdy articles about programming and listens to podcasts then we both fall asleep in our own time!

Same. I'm happy to cuddle but move away when it's time to sleep.

No one wants to go to sleep wearing a human backpack.

I can't fall asleep while someone is touching me.
I also hate the sensation of being breathed on. My DP doesn't take it personally, luckily.

Nope, we fall asleep cuddling every night.

I used to feel like that but with my current partner we love to cuddle in bed. If either one of wakes up during the night and we aren’t touching in some way we will move closer. Even if it’s just a hand or foot that is touching we like to have some skin to skin contact. But this is the first time I’ve ever felt like this, and luckily he is the same.

I hate cuddling going to sleep. We have a super king size bed for this reason. We cuddle and talk when we get into bed, then we go to our own sides for sleep.

I was amazed to read a thread a while back about how people go to bed at the same time and cuddle and that this was seen as a prerequisite for a healthy relationship! I’m an early bird and he’s a night owl and when we’re in bed we roll the other way and say goodnight. Unless sex of course. Everyone’s different OP!

I might be your polar opposite; I love cuddles and it relaxes me enough to sleep. I find it weird when we sleep facing away from each other - although we don’t really “plan” how to sleep; we just get comfortable!

We’re all different, if your DH is happy then that’s all that matters!

I can’t fall asleep unless my dp is cuddled up to me.. though when it’s extremely hot we don’t cuddle but we he will face me and I hold his hand lol.
I can’t fall asleep unless his up close and cuddling me.

Don't touch me when I'm trying to sleep. Hate it and hubby is like a furnace at night.

I can’t fall asleep unless his up close and cuddling me

Goodness no, I want him as far away in the bed as possible 😂 maybe I'm just an ice queen.

I feel bad because I know DH likes a cuddle. But I just can't. I get grouchy and annoyed!

I hate being touched when I'm trying to get to sleep, I just can't get comfy.

I'm the same, luckily we have a spare room, but i want to be in my bed really

Same here. I get too warm. Don’t know what to do with my arms and elbows. And do not breathe on me! The best part about DH snoring is that I can tell him to roll over and he will “obay” without being offended.

Yes. It's why I got a super king size bed. That and the fact that my partner lets off heat like a radiator. Now that I'm 51 and starting with hot flushes, I'm seriously considering getting separate beds.

Obey

Oh this reminds me of that episode of Friends

We love to fall asleep spooning....everyone is different as long as you are both happy xx

We’ve been very happily married for 31 years but we literally sleep at opposite sides of the bed as I get absolutely claustrophobic if anyone invades my space when I’m trying to sleep .

Yes me, I find cuddling in bed puts me off falling asleep and also I get too hot, I'm as far away from my partner as possible but in the mornings I enjoy it or on the sofa watching tv before bed etc

I can't fall asleep with someone touching me.

I don't mind cuddling briefly before falling asleep, but I move away into my own space to actually fall asleep. No cuddling allowed most of summer either, as it's too hot lol