Instigating

[ColdFloor]

Bit startled to realise I haven't "made a move" on DH in years. We have sex, but it's kinda planned and suggested by him,. I'd be more worried if we never did it, but is it just me? Been like this since we started trying for DS1 but he is 8 now!

Well why don't you try initiating and see what happens. I love it when my DW initiates and I guess most guys are the same.

Yes, I get that thanks but it doesn't answer '"is it just me".

I don't suppose it is 'just' you but I'd have thought most women initiate sex.

Actually, it's not just you, one of my friends only has sex with her husband if he initiates it.

My ex would go flaccid if I instigated, so I learned not to.
Was soul destroying....

I never instigate. Never have. 15 years.

Why do you never initiate it? Is it your libido is lower than his, or would he react poorly?

Or are you afraid of a not tonight Josephine ?

My libido is lower but when we do it it is great. It was just a sudden realisation and got me wondering.

Not afraid he would say no. Tough luck for me if he did as I could hardly complain.

Was same until recently and i worried about dh not responding so I surprised him when he came through with with what loves. Still mostly him making first move but not always.