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Bad kiss on second date

66 replies

Nev85 · 30/07/2020 15:01

Hi,

I went on a second date with a guy, we got on well and he put thought into our date plans but we kissed at the end of the night and it was not good! Any advice? Should I move on now or persist? He text and said he really enjoyed the date and kiss and asked to meet again...

I went through quite a difficult break up of a longterm relationship so am.only finding my feet in the dating world again.

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DressesWithPocketsRockMyWorld · 30/07/2020 19:23

Sorry but I vote for bin him. My first kiss with my husband was AMAZING. Made my knees weak and my fanny flutter. We used to spend hours kissing.

Laundrywoman · 30/07/2020 19:25

@Sugartitties

i’m a terrible kisser because i never do it, think it’s disgusting but i’m dynamite in bed Grin
Grin Grin

Wonder where he got the idea that slobbering your face was the way to go, op?

Spannwr1971 · 30/07/2020 19:31

I think you can tell a lot by how someone kisses you. I mean, how in tune they are with what's appropriate for the moment. I definitely wouldn't be slobbering over someone, surely a first kiss should be somewhere between tentertive and passionate? I'd go for hand on cheek, and a lingering peck to start with, see how that was received. If someone rammed their tongue down my throat, i'd feel like they weren't in tune with where I was at.

HansBanans · 30/07/2020 19:32

@IveSeenThings

I have had very mediocre sex after the most amazing kissing...so I don't think it necessarily is linked. My best kisser was the best sex though.... thanks DH
Same! Major disappointment ☹️
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Nev85 · 30/07/2020 19:44

I think that was it exactly...he wasnt in tune with me or the situation at all...just ploughed on 🙈

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Nev85 · 30/07/2020 19:46

How do I get myself out of meeting again now?!

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gamerchick · 30/07/2020 19:48

Just let him know that you're not feeling it and best you leave it there. All the best for the future type of thing.

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Nev85 · 30/07/2020 19:50

I recently joined a hobby that he is also at...

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 30/07/2020 19:53

@Nev85

I recently joined a hobby that he is also at...
Oh no!
BeingATwatItsABingThing · 30/07/2020 19:55

@Nev85

I recently joined a hobby that he is also at...
My DH asked me out multiple times before I said yes. I really liked him but didn’t want to make it awkward if it didn’t work out because we went to the same club. It obviously all worked out for me as he’s now my DH and we’re expecting DD2 but I can imagine it would have been so awkward if we hadn’t worked out.
CrypticQueen · 30/07/2020 20:03

Treat it like sex and ask him if he could kiss you like you like it.

MrsGrindah · 30/07/2020 20:12

I need to know what an amazing kiss is! I’ve never had one ! DH is love,y and all that but I’m now properly jealous.

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Nev85 · 30/07/2020 20:27

I didnt realise that what I had in my longterm relationship was so good...😪

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Disfordarkchocolate · 30/07/2020 20:28

Practice, practice, practice. Tell him what you like.

BobFleming · 30/07/2020 20:31

Ew. Is there anything worse than a bad kisser? Move on.

RustyLeesBogBrush · 30/07/2020 20:40

I think it depends. Sometimes you can have a guy who is open to some critique if you try and explain something was missing and ask to try again taking your time and maybe allowing him to copy you.

However, if you are talking someone who kisses you whilst washing your hair at the same time? Nah, I couldn’t.

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