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Bad kiss on second date

66 replies

Nev85 · 30/07/2020 15:01

Hi,

I went on a second date with a guy, we got on well and he put thought into our date plans but we kissed at the end of the night and it was not good! Any advice? Should I move on now or persist? He text and said he really enjoyed the date and kiss and asked to meet again...

I went through quite a difficult break up of a longterm relationship so am.only finding my feet in the dating world again.

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MactheRover · 30/07/2020 16:20

I would give him a second chance but bear in mind some men (quite a lot) just aren't very good at sex and the kiss is the best indicator.

JorisBonson · 30/07/2020 16:23

I thought DP was an awful kisser - he wasn't, he was super nervous.

Probably didn't help that I drunkenly launched myself at him for our first kiss.

Steph777 · 30/07/2020 16:33

I dated a guy who licked me more than kissed me - disgusting ....chucked him !

gamerchick · 30/07/2020 16:37

But what was wrong with it? Once you get into your groove kissing gets better.

If he's a licker or thruster with tongue with bad breath then dump away though. I just wouldn't be hasty on such little information

Original poster
Nev85 · 30/07/2020 16:52

It was just a big wide open mouth with a bit of tongue poking...no lips...my chin was soaking...just was doing his own thing!! Just not enjoyable! I've been told I'm a good kisser but I guess it might be subjective too!!!

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Original poster
Nev85 · 30/07/2020 16:53

I dont think hes really had any proper relationships either which is the only red flag so far but now its combined with the bad kiss so might make sense...

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MitziK · 30/07/2020 17:00

@Nev85

It was just a big wide open mouth with a bit of tongue poking...no lips...my chin was soaking...just was doing his own thing!! Just not enjoyable! I've been told I'm a good kisser but I guess it might be subjective too!!!
Oh, God. Just text the 'It's not you, it's me' message and be done with it now.

Save yourself.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 30/07/2020 17:00

Clearly everyone has a different opinion of what makes a good kiss. I personally can’t stand tongues being heavily involved. You see kisses in films and I am often a little put off by them but I know others would disagree.

OP, based on your description of his kiss, I wouldn’t want to do that again. I don’t want a wet face!

Original poster
Nev85 · 30/07/2020 17:01

😂 I had to wipe it after 🙈🙈🙈

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Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 30/07/2020 17:03

Grin @MitziK

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 30/07/2020 17:03

Oh God OP that's terrible.

Bunnymumy · 30/07/2020 17:05

Based on the fact that he texted and said he enjoyed the kiss...A. That is cringeworthy. And a bit creepy. And B. It suggests he actually thought it was decent.

So, no, I wouldn't be having another date.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 30/07/2020 17:05

@Nev85

😂 I had to wipe it after 🙈🙈🙈
Eww!!!
PhannyPharts · 30/07/2020 17:19

Ok I was prepared to come on here and tell you to give the guy another chance, maybe he was nervous, you're being too harsh.

Then i read your update and felt nauseous. He inhaled your face and left it so wet you had to wipe it afterwards. That isn't getting better.

HansBanans · 30/07/2020 17:22

Oh god. Your description of the kiss reminds me of a guy that I went on a few dates with about 7 years ago 🙈 I'd walk away OP, chances are that's just the way he kisses! 😬

Original poster
Nev85 · 30/07/2020 17:37

I didnt want to be too harsh initially but I think he are right! I think I was just happy to be going on a few dates after covid...I dont want to be avoiding kissing let alone anything else oh god...the next part I'm not used to...letting him down...he is a lovely guy 😬

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Sailfin · 30/07/2020 17:48

I dated a man who kissed me on our second date. It was horrible - he forced his tongue into my mouth and his buck teeth gnashed against my mouth.

Also, his boiler had broken and he was too tight to have it mended, so he didn't use his washing machine. His jumper smelled fusty.

He took me back to his house and I made my excuses after he removed his trainers and the stench of his rancid feet made me gag.

Also, he had made his own DIY sofa out of corduroy.

Original poster
Nev85 · 30/07/2020 17:51

See my guy sounds great compared to that Sailfin 😂😂😂

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Sailfin · 30/07/2020 18:00

Lol OP - that's not saying much! Grin

LivingMyBestLife2020 · 30/07/2020 18:23

Tough one! Like a couple of people have said, I was going to say give him another chance. After your update I’m not quite so sure!

The guy I’m seeing now wasn’t the best kisser the first time. He just kind of pecked me on the lips over and over. I was disappointed as wanted sparks to fly, but it left me cold. Had another date and the next kiss was wonderful. He was actually a really good kisser and sparks do fly when we kiss now. I think it was just a rushed, nervous kiss the first time.

My ex was a bad kisser too. We didn’t often kiss unless it was going to turn into sex. He used to just shove his tongue down my throat over and over Confused

It’s a deal breaker for me now but I’d always give a second chance. Would you have the Hakka to tell him to close his mouth a bit? 🤣

Sugartitties · 30/07/2020 18:42

i’m a terrible kisser because i never do it, think it’s disgusting but i’m dynamite in bed Grin

Techway · 30/07/2020 18:54

Sounds horrendous but Exh was a fantastic kisser, but abusive. I miss the kissing!

Could he have been over excited so there was a mismatch in passion? Just trying to see if there is anything to salvage but it is important.

IveSeenThings · 30/07/2020 18:59

I have had very mediocre sex after the most amazing kissing...so I don't think it necessarily is linked.
My best kisser was the best sex though.... thanks DH

Original poster
Nev85 · 30/07/2020 19:04

It's a tricky one...if it was s good kiss I'd have no problem meeting him again...it reminded me of a teenage disco kiss!

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MattBerrysHair · 30/07/2020 19:08

I have had very mediocre sex after the most amazing kissing...so I don't think it necessarily is linked.

Yep, me too. Exh was an amazing kisser, properly made me swoon the first times we kissed. The sex was very 'meh'. Dp is an average kisser, pleasant enough but no swooning, but the absolute best ever in bed. The kissing isn't always a good indicator of how the sex will be. Saying that, OP's description of this particular kiss sounds utterly dreadful!