Confused if consensual or not (trigger warning)

[LornaScotland]

Apologies if I have posted this on the wrong board.

I was hoping to get some advice. I have posted on here before a couple of times but under a different name!

I would also like to say I am so sorry if this upsets anyone. You will see why I am slightly confused by this.

I currently live with my DP. We have been together 4 years. No kids. We are both 29.

I had quite a bit to drink last weekend on the Saturday. To a point I was in bed by around 10pm for a Saturday, that's not like me...! When I say a bit to drink, I'd had at least a bottle of wine, also some rum and coke, to a point my head was spinning and I was slurring my words.

Not proud of getting into that state, not like me. I've had stress from all corners at the moment. Work (could be made redundant due to COVID), family, money worries.

DP comes up to bed when he realises I have disappeared from the front room, we start kissing which is consensual (this is where I get confused) I pretty much welcomed the sex part, we start having sex, half way through (I know, he does last a while ) I pretty much close my eyes and tried to go to sleep, my head is spinning and I feel myself passing out.... I know I fell asleep. But he continues and finishes...

I hate to say it's happened just another 2 times before.

I am confused by this because it started off as consensual so surely he has done nothing wrong?

Although I didn't fight to get him off, probably because I was so so tired/ out of it!

Any thoughts welcomed and I hope I have explained this well enough.

Thank you so much x

@Notajogger

If you welcomed it from the start then how could he know it was wrong, if he wasnt drunk and saw you go to sleep, then he should of been more respectful. If it bothers you, don't get yourself this drunk again so you are aware of whats happening and tell him while your sober not to have sex with you while your drunk as it upsets you.

Completely disagree. Surely it's just common sense that unconscious people can't be consenting to sex. Why would he even want to finish himself off that way?
It's not about "being more respectful" at all it's about not assaulting someone.
Talk about victim blaming - she shouldn't have to protect herself from her partner by not getting drunk!

of course you can disagree, we all have our own opinions This is mine! But thats up to the op to decide if she doesn't like it. If she wasn't drunk she would have a more clear understanding what was going on.

OP only you really know if this was mallious in any way, if he is normally a loving person that treats you well then maybe its not as bad as you think.