Wanted to move since the start of the year now, we have toddler twins and we have outgrown our house, to the point it's suffocating. The area isn't great and the schools even worse.
Before covid we discussed moving, we both wanted the same or so I thought, I got as far as having our house valued, was really excited and was asking him now what when he finished work, all of a sudden he said he wanted to put things on hold as he was worried about his job security?! It was the first I'd heard of it. Tbh there was no real reason he should be worried but I though fair enough I'll ease off a bit. Fast forward to now, things getting a bit more "Normal" I've broached then house subject again, start looking at houses we find ones we like, again all of a sudden loads of issues come up - "now isn't the right time - worried about job still - worried about the economy - too stressed with work". To begin with I said fair enough and asked if he could Atleast give me a little time frame so I felt I could have something to work towards, but he says he can't. I feel he may have some kind of anxiety about change as it took me so long to persuade him for us to go on holiday to Spain to visit grandparents in sept, we had to write pro's and cons lists and all sorts.
This house is in his name and I've saved my bum off to get half a deposit off so I can be on the next mortgage. I feel I don't have a say in anything, I'm feeling really frustrated and lost right now to the point I'm questioning the whole relationship. I may be being unreasonably which I will accept but please be kind.