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Am I being used

20 replies

69confused · 09/07/2020 19:48

So short story seeing someone for five months caught him cheating he wanted me an my kid to live with him but changed his mind I left him and he stayed with this girl she has kids he has stopped contact with me though continually to text from the time he wakes to time he sleeps we have sex we even stayed over an cuddled me all night more then ever has he says He likes me a lot but my kid are massive issue but he still with this girl is that rebound he says she’s nothing do I wait around will he come back? Or am I being used

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AnneLovesGilbert · 09/07/2020 19:50

Oh dude. You have to walk away. Why are you settling for this?

Justcallmebebes · 09/07/2020 19:51

You're being used. Block, move on and please don't move your kids in with a man you've only known 5 minutes

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69confused · 09/07/2020 19:52

No I’d never leave my home never just confused as to weather to stick around or move on

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BeautifulBirds · 09/07/2020 19:53

I'm confused?!

Your ex, of 5 months, is living with someone else but hooks up with you,.every now and again.

If this is the case he is totally using you.

AnneLovesGilbert · 09/07/2020 19:54

What would be sticking around for?

I hope he’s using condoms...

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69confused · 09/07/2020 19:56

It’s what I thought I just needed it reiterating to me From someone else’s view

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intheningnangnong · 09/07/2020 19:58

Used and abused. Don’t let him do it anymore. Flowers for you.

Justcallmebebes · 09/07/2020 19:59

He couldn't have treated you and the other woman with more disrespect. Gather up your dignity and move on. You can do better

Crystalspider · 09/07/2020 20:01

You're being used, stop seeing him
It's not because you have a child if the woman he's with has children as well.
He's playing you both.

BertiesLanding · 09/07/2020 20:03

You are being used, yes.

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69confused · 09/07/2020 20:04

I’m not so sure about abused I wanted sex just as much so I could say that I say that but definitely used but yeah thank you it just need to hear it from someone who doesn’t have the same insight

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SoulofanAggron · 09/07/2020 20:05

Yes. Wanker. Bin.

MyOwnSummer · 09/07/2020 20:11

Never treat someone as a priority when they only treat you as an option.

Good luck OP, he is a complete wanker. Block him and move on.

Closetbeanmuncher · 09/07/2020 20:18

Honour yourself and raise that bar!

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69confused · 09/07/2020 20:23

Blocked him thanks I kept doubting myself but use all have the same reasoning so I should just trust my instincts and I’m defo staying away

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ilikemethewayiam · 09/07/2020 20:29

Well done OP! Block him everywhere and don’t answer the door to him if he turns up. As PP have said, move on, keep your bar high.

Heyhih3 · 09/07/2020 20:32

He sounds awful. Anybody who can’t accept your child but can sleep with you definitely doesn’t like you or respect you.

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69confused · 09/07/2020 20:47

Yeah I’ve blocked in everything and do you reckon he would knock my door?? Do people do that I tiered of being used I’m just relieved everyone has the same opinion opened my eye feel a little deluded because I contemplated giving him a chance he’s was just first what I though serious relationship in a while But reality definitely all lies

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Elieza · 09/07/2020 20:47

Yes you’re being used.

I doubt he wants to split with the other woman at all. He just wants you on the side to freshen up his sex life.

There is no future for you with this man.

He can’t be trusted for starters as you know he’s capable of going behind his partners back. He would do that to you too if you were his partner.

Don’t listen to his lies. He is manipulating you for sex. He is using you as a free hooker. No wonder he’s trying harder to cuddle you etc as he knows he may lose his free sex. That’s all he wants. Dump block move on.

Sugartitties · 10/07/2020 03:29

why are you letting this man treat you like shit

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