Is it true that women are turned off by feminine men?

[sundestroyer]

I'm a man in my 20s and growing up was always a bit feminine. A few lads made fun of me for it but nothing too serious. I also have had few friends

I've been told in college by a few women that I'm cute but a bit too feminine for them (in terms of my height, I'm 5ft 4in and my voice). I'm a bit torn. On one hand, I feel I shouldn't care because I should be myself. On the other hand, if I wanted to get a girlfriend, I'd realize that I need to maximize my chances of being attractive and act masculine as most women are attracted to masculinity.

I'm also bisexual which I think might repulse women. Is this the case?

I’m thinking Prince.

Women are not a hive mind. Some women would be attracted to you. Others would not.

@KarenMcKaren

Women are not a hive mind. Some women would be attracted to you. Others would not.

I think this hits the nail on the head. Women are people too. We have our own thoughts, opinions, and predilections, and that includes differences in what we find attractive.

@Bunnymumy

Hmm... It depends on taste. And perhaps what you mean by 'feminine'.

I love a bit of pizzazz in a guy for example...
Did you see 'Eurovision' on netflix? Dan Steven's character has me smitten. Where as I'm not normally into him in other things. He's handsome but not my type if that makes sense. So clearly it was the clothes and hair and personality of the character that swung it.

I think a higher voice may be a put off to some but it would depend on the whole package.

Height wise, you maybe just need to go for shorter girls. I'm 5ft 1 and would happily date 5ft 4. I'm sure a few within an inch or two of your height would be fine with it too.

Bisexuality hmmm...I think it depends. It doesnt matter much when you are in a committed relationship surely...plus, you could both talk about men you find cute on tv xD lol

Personal taste dude. I think the voice thing might be the main hindrance. But it probably isnt that high and other ppl are just joshing ya.

😂😂😂😂 I think you quite like flamboyant extroverts then!

I think you need to do some work on your self esteem and loving yourself first and then you'll attract people who see the wonderful person you already know yourself to be.

Are you ok about being bisexual? Are you ashamed of it a little bit maybe? Are you specifically looking to settle down with a woman or are you open to being in a same sex relationship? Have you explored your sexual and romantic preferences to work out what you want in a partner?

Would you want to be in a relationship with someone where you were having to act the whole time? That's totally exhausting. Far better to be able to be yourself and spending the energy focusing on having fun and deepening emotional intimacy.

I'm bisexual. I'm attracted to more feminine men and masculine women. I like men who are artistic, creative, gentle and sensitive. Someone out there will want you for you. Maybe that person will be male?