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Cheating boyfriend?

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ameliarainro · 07/07/2020 14:18

Hi,

So Iv been with my boyfriend just over 4 years and we have lived together for about 2 years,
Today I was clearing ore living computer deal and cupboards and was putting some stuff in my boyfriends bag out the way And I found some condoms in there. We don't use condoms!!
There was 2 different kinds with different expiry dates
One was 2022 and the other 2024

Tell me I am right in thinking there is no justifiable reason for him to have condoms?

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ameliarainro · 10/07/2020 06:52

@MikeUniformMike

Were they unopened packets or half-used packets?
No they had been opened, so it was just loose condoms, there were about 5 and clearly from 2 boxes as the expiry dates were different, so 1 had an expiry date 2022 and the rest were 2024
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ameliarainro · 10/07/2020 06:59

He has since added to the story and said the reason there are different expiry dates is because the older one is from an old packet he bought when he used to watch porn and has said he liked to watch porn with the guy taking the condom off before ejaculation and he would do that too

And the new ones are from the bin story

I still feel he is lying
I mean come on..........

I have always been very open with sex and so that fact that he didn't tell me about something he liked or likes to do seems strange to me

We have had many a conversation about what turns us on and I have actually specific asked him in the past what type of porn he likes on numerous occasions when we have been in these conversations

Me being the type of person I am this is something he could have easily told me if it was the truth I wouldn't have blinked an eyelid

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Mintlegs · 10/07/2020 07:36

I’m sorry but you know the answer on this one. You deserve better

Normalmumandwife · 10/07/2020 07:57

He isn't very good at lying is he?

What is your next move @ameliarainro. Will you be forgiving him?

hellsbellsmelons · 10/07/2020 07:58

So he's had bit more time and now he's elaborating.
You've got him sussed OP.

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ameliarainro · 10/07/2020 08:24

Exactly what I said to him

You have had more time and now came up with another story Shock

Defo can't forgive this when I don't believe the story
Defo cheating

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HollowTalk · 10/07/2020 11:06

He seems to think you're a complete idiot. Nobody in the world would believe those excuses.

emmetgirl · 10/07/2020 13:31

Yep he's cheating- so sorry OP xxxx

Closetbeanmuncher · 10/07/2020 22:50

Wow!

Those stories are so bad it's actually insulting.

Hiccupiscal · 10/07/2020 23:09

Op, not making light of it, as you must be really upset... but please, ask him to provide more details because his stories really are far fetched and hilarious... ffs.

LycraLovingLass · 10/07/2020 23:14

I am glad you dibt believe his story, inventive though they are.

I hope you manage to extract your self from him and move on easily.

Teacaketotty · 10/07/2020 23:17

Wow that is some story OP - so sorry for you, but at least you know now before anymore wasted time x

Vodkacranberryplease · 11/07/2020 11:13

Well I disagree with everyone!

These stories are NOT inventive and given how much time he's had he should be doing a lot better. He's even bought time by saying he wants to explain later... and should have at least bothered to come up with something truly believable.

So for that reason alone I'd be getting rid. He's obviously not very imaginative of bright and in 5 years find you'll be bored stupid.

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ameliarainro · 11/07/2020 11:35

@Vodkacranberryplease

Well I disagree with everyone!

These stories are NOT inventive and given how much time he's had he should be doing a lot better. He's even bought time by saying he wants to explain later... and should have at least bothered to come up with something truly believable.

So for that reason alone I'd be getting rid. He's obviously not very imaginative of bright and in 5 years find you'll be bored stupid.

Does this mean you think he is telling the truth about the porn story but should have came up with a better story or do you think he is lying and is cheating?

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SandyY2K · 11/07/2020 12:20

So he had condoms at work ( which he could have thrown in the toilet bin) and now the story is that it's to watch porn.

He's lying. There's no trust....what's the point in continuing in such a relationship. Trust is the very foundation of a relationship.

Vodkacranberryplease · 11/07/2020 12:24

@ameliarainro No sorry that was slightly tongue in cheek though I know you are devastated. I think he's lying and my comment was that they are not even good lies.

If someone's telling the truth then they have that truth straight away. They don't have to buy time.

Vodkacranberryplease · 11/07/2020 12:26

I think none of his stories are true or even good ones. However no man in the history of men has ever admitted cheating so good story of not they will always be stories. Believe the evidence.

MushyPeasAreTheDevilsFood · 11/07/2020 13:23

What are you going to do?

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ameliarainro · 11/07/2020 15:07

@Vodkacranberryplease

I think none of his stories are true or even good ones. However no man in the history of men has ever admitted cheating so good story of not they will always be stories. Believe the evidence.

🥰

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